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[ Billie Eilish's
"Therefore I Am" playing ]
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♪♪ I'm not your friend
or anything, damn ♪♪
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♪♪ You think
that you're the man ♪♪
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♪♪ I think, therefore I am ♪♪
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♪♪ I'm not your friend
or anything, damn ♪♪
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♪♪ You think
that you're the man ♪♪
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♪♪ I think, therefore I am ♪♪
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It's very hard for a woman
who has been brought up to be
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sweet and clingy to stand up
in front of 2,500 people
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and say,
"Okay, now listen to me."
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You have really
a tremendous sense of power
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when you're standing up
and commanding them
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to listen to you.
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You must be a very strong woman.
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♪♪♪♪♪♪
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Women have always been
in comedy.
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♪♪ Stop, what the hell
are you talking about? ♪♪
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But now we're at such
a critical mass
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that we can't ignore
that women are hilarious
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and making content that
everybody wants to consume.
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♪♪ Don't talk ♪♪
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♪♪'Bout me like how you might
know how I feel ♪♪
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♪♪ Top of the world,
but your world isn't real ♪♪
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It's not about talking like men
or talking about the stuff
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that they talk about.
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It's about our experience,
and that is as valid as theirs.
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Women have an advantage
in stand‐up comedy.
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It's 'cause we've been dabbling
in our feelings
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for far longer than men have,
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and so that's why we're killing
the game right now.
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♪♪ I'm not your friend
or anything, damn ♪♪
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♪♪ You think
that you're the man ♪♪
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♪♪ I think, therefore I am ♪♪
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♪♪ I'm not your friend
or anything, damn ♪♪
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♪♪ You think
that you're the man ♪♪
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♪♪ I think, therefore I am ♪♪
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[ electricity buzzing ]
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[ horns honking ]
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[ siren wailing in distance ]
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[ horns continue honking]
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Did I tell you the one time
I was in the bathroom there?
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And I'd just gotten offstage
and I had, like,
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not a great set
'cause it was trying new stuff.
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And, um, this girl walked in
with her friend.
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She goes, "I love the girl
that's on now,
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but that last girl‐‐"
and I just go,
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"Please don't finish
the sentence!
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"Please don't
finish the sentence!
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I'm the girl! I'm the girl!"
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And the girl goes‐‐she stopped,
and she's like,
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"Oh, my God. I'm so sorry,"
which made me realize
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that she was gonna say
something bad.
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But, um, she was like,
"I'm so sorry,"
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and I go, "It's okay.
Just don't‐‐We‐‐We‐‐We are‐‐"
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I go, "We walk amongst you."
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♪♪♪♪♪♪
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‐ How have you been?
‐ Good. How are you?
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Wonderful. Good to see you.
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‐ This is my girlfriend, Elysa.
‐ How you doing tonight, Elysa?
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♪♪♪♪♪♪
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Almost every famous comic
started here.
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Where should we go? Do you wanna
go back to the table?
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[ indistinct conversations ]
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This is
the infamous Comics Table.
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We'd all eat dinner together
and, you know, tell jokes
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and bust with each other.
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I always hook up my phone
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and, like, take him
through my funniest friends.
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‐ You're on there all the time.
‐ That's awesome.
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‐ You'll get there. And, um‐‐
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‐ Keep submitting.
‐ What I strive for.
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There's also a ton
of camaraderie here.
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The Stand is like that
in New York,
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and Comedy Store in L. A.
and The Improv.
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Like, every‐‐there's certain
clubs where people
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really become family and close
and hang out.
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How are you? Good to see you.
Good.
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On the road and in a lot
of other clubs,
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it's very hard for women
to get stage time.
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So this is where you end up
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after you get
all that stage time
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and you can prove yourself.
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Oh, here's Nikki's.
I don't have my glasses on.
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"This is my favorite place.
Thank you."
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Oh, and Marina.
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Here's Lisa Lampanelli.
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Here's Carmen.
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[ cheers and applause ]
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The very first time I performed
onstage was for two minutes,
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and right then, I felt like
I just got married
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and had a baby. Like, I'm like,
this is what I wanna do.
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I never felt that way
about anything.
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What does that even mean,
"awkwardly hot"?
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I've never even heard those
two words put together.
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How do you even say "thank you"
to "awkwardly hot"?
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‐ [ laughter ]
‐ Like, thanks.
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[ laughter ]
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I love stand‐up.
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The joy I get
from getting onstage
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and being able to take people
on a journey
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to a place where they forget
what they're going through.
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And I'll bet you,
you get up at 23,
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and you just, "Mm! Ah! Ah! Ah!"
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I can't do that 'cause that
last egg just fell when I...
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[ laughter ]
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It's mostly people's
biggest fear
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to get up in front of others
and try to make them laugh.
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I told my mother when I was 14
I wanted to be a comedian,
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and she said...
[ imitating Korean accent ]
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"Oh, maybe it's better
if you just die."
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[ laughter ]
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But for me,
when I was starting out,
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I was very different,
very young,
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and so I had to also
convince people
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that I had something important
to say.
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[ cheers and applause ]
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They always show me
doing stand‐up,
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and then the camera goes out
in the audience
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and looks for the Asians
in the audience.
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[ laughter ]
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"Look at them
in their natural habitat."
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[ laughter ]
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Genetics didn't work out
for me,
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so that's why I am a comic.
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I figured my options were
comedian, softball coach,
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or UPS driver.
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The beauty of comedy is that
I have a voice and a microphone,
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and I can just go out there
and do my thing.
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I picked comedy 'cause
I don't look good in brown.
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[ laughter ]
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You have the mic.
It's‐‐It's‐‐It's your turn.
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I was the weird kid.
I was just, like, awkward.
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You know, like, one of my
breasts grew before the other.
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I had, like, a starter tit,
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which is not a hot look
for a girl.
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I have control,
and I'm a storyteller,
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so I get to tell my tale.
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I was like, really? Okay.
And then he goes...
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[ deep voice ] "Little boys
think that tits matter,
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but adult men know that
ass matters. That's all."
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[ laughter ]
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I'm like, "But you're 14."
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[ laughter ]
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Crafting a joke
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and feeling that energy
where knowing in your gut,
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I just delivered this high,
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and now I have to say
something deeper,
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or I said this fast,
and I said this part slower.
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It'll be funnier.
It's melodic, almost.
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Girls have a more insidious
kind of crazy.
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Sometimes we'll start a fight
with you
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just to see if we can make it
look like you started the fight.
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[ laughter ]
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Every girl's done that,
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just to see how strong
your powers are.
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It's almost like singing,
like you can just riff
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and knowing energy‐wise
that you can take them anywhere.
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"Stop it.
I don't wanna fight with you."
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But in your girl head,
you're like...
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[ deep, hearty guffawing ]
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[ deep voice ]
I wanna fight with you.
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[ laughter ]
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The best experience onstage
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is when the whole room
is with you,
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and you feel like
you're truly sharing a story
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that they can connect with.
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"Strong Black woman"‐‐that never
felt like a compliment.
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That always felt like work.
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‐ [ laughter ]
‐ So it was like,
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"Hey, what you doing
on Saturday?
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I got this heavy couch.
I need a strong Black woman."
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[ laughter ]
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I used to be like, ugh,
when comedians would, like,
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pat themselves on the back
or like,
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"We are the last bastion
of free speech,"
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and it's like,
no, we kind of are.
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Naked pictures‐‐I send those,
and I shouldn't.
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I shouldn't.
The cloud is not secure.
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But, like, neither am I,
and I need constant validation.
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When someone tells me
I can't talk about something,
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I just, like, wanna do it more.
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I love "The Sixth Sense,"
though.
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I love‐‐and the ending,
when the guy came in my eye,
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and I didn't have to watch
the rest of it, that was great.
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[ laughter ]
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In stand‐up, there is no one
telling us what to do.
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[ faint laughter ]
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What is it that beats inside
the heart and soul of a comedian
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that makes you want to make
people laugh,
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that makes you want to stand
upstage alone?
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Damage. [ laughing ]
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No. [ laughing ] I'm sorry.
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Um...no, I don't know.
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Yeah, there's probably a little
piece of a lot of us
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that is filling
some sort of void, right?
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[ indistinct conversations ]
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Where are you guys from?
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Here? Okay, what do you do?
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You're a social w‐‐
That's probably why
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you've been laughing so hard.
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Yeah, my mother's a therapist,
too.
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Yeah, it's incredible.
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She saw clients in the basement
of my house my entire life,
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so I had to be quiet.
She'd be like,
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"Judy's coming today, and she's
having a really hard time.
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"So I'm gonna need you
to be quiet upstairs,
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'cause Judy needs help.
Judy's really struggling."
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Ju‐‐ [ laughs ] I'm like,
"Well, I just ate six pizzas...
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and started cutting,
but good luck to Judy."
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[ laughter ]
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Okay, um...
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I say this onstage as a joke,
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but, like,
people start clapping.
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I'm like, no matter how much
you clap,
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it'll never fill the hole.
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Like, we're just trying to fill
this hole
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and get the attention
that we've always wanted
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that we can't get.
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I think it really goes back
to childhood
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and just always wanting to be
seen and heard
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and not feeling acknowledged.
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I was not a happy kid.
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My parents weren't happy
together, and, you know,
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my father would be, like,
tough on me,
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so I just kept thinking
I'm bad, I'm wrong.
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I used to fight boys every day
after school,
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and I would normally not win.
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I was very tomboyish,
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no interest in dolls,
really tall.
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I got teased from the minute
I got up
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to the minute I came home
from school.
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6'3". I'm very tall.
That is kinda tall.
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Actually,
I reached this height‐‐
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I was about 13 years old,
which was horrible,
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'cause I'd walk down the halls
in grammar school.
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Everyone called me "Sasquatch"
and everything, right?
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‐ I didn't know what to do.
‐ [ laughter ]
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Yeah, thanks a lot.
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Then I'd go home to my mother.
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I'd be like, "Mom, all the kids
are teasing me in school.
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I don't know what to do."
She'd say to me...
245
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[ sighs heavily ]
246
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"Judith, don't worry about it.
They're jealous of you.
247
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"Go upstairs and put on
your father's clothes.
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"Leave me alone.
Get away from me.
249
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I can't stand your pain."
‐ [ laughter ]
250
00:10:27,512 --> 00:10:29,214
Yeah, I got bullied a lot.
We moved‐‐
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my family‐‐
my dad moved my family
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to the suburbs of Chicago.
253
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So there wasn't
many Black people,
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and it was very prejudiced,
so, you know,
255
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I got called the "N" word
all the time.
256
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I didn't like to fight.
I didn't like confrontation.
257
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So I was always the one
that came in
258
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and tried to make people laugh.
259
00:10:45,948 --> 00:10:48,587
But I didn't know
what I wanted to do.
260
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My family felt
I should play it safe,
261
00:10:51,092 --> 00:10:53,262
get something where you don't
get fired.
262
00:10:53,329 --> 00:10:56,469
So I chose to be
a legal secretary.
263
00:10:56,536 --> 00:10:58,507
This is like eons ago.
264
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I come from
a very traditional family.
265
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I grew up in Spain
and moved to the states
266
00:11:04,251 --> 00:11:06,455
when I was 8, and I was very shy
267
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'cause I would say things
incorrectly,
268
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and then someone would laugh.
Like, I would just be like,
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well, I'm not gonna
speak up then.
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To my family,
I was a very strange person.
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I liked things they didn't like.
272
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I found humor in things
that they didn't find funny.
273
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They were very hard‐working.
274
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We grew up on a farm.
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For a long time,
we didn't have running water.
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I, uh, I'm from Canada.
I grew up on a farm there,
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and I live in here
but, you know,
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everyone back home's
always like,
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"Hey, don't go Hollywood."
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I'm like, I wanna
go Hollywood, you know?
281
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‐ [ laughter ]
‐ I wanna have it all.
282
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I wanna have a convertible,
a car phone, a drug addiction.
283
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[ laughter ]
284
00:11:43,129 --> 00:11:44,666
I just have to get
a convertible.
285
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[ laughter ]
286
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I am this close.
287
00:11:48,774 --> 00:11:51,913
Everyone assumes you're kind of
the class clown that's, like,
288
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"Look at me, look at me."
289
00:11:53,149 --> 00:11:55,019
But I was a cautious kid.
290
00:11:55,086 --> 00:11:57,925
My mom said I would always
look both ways
291
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before crossing the street.
292
00:12:00,230 --> 00:12:05,306
So it's weird that I ended up
in this job that has
293
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such a lack of stability,
294
00:12:06,710 --> 00:12:09,983
and you're having to take risks
all the time.
295
00:12:10,049 --> 00:12:13,189
I grew up in the suburbs
of Dallas, Texas,
296
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for many years, with, like,
a single mom.
297
00:12:15,093 --> 00:12:16,630
And I moved schools a lot,
298
00:12:16,696 --> 00:12:19,636
so I definitely never felt like
I fit in,
299
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especially growing up
in Dallas, Texas.
300
00:12:21,506 --> 00:12:23,944
Like, all the girls had bangs.
They were perfect, Christian.
301
00:12:24,011 --> 00:12:25,648
And then it was, like, me.
302
00:12:25,714 --> 00:12:27,017
You did wear an eye patch
as a child.
303
00:12:27,083 --> 00:12:29,021
‐ I did.
‐ I know that about you.
304
00:12:29,087 --> 00:12:30,156
I had something called
amblyopia.
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00:12:30,223 --> 00:12:31,292
‐ Right.
‐ Which affects a lot of people.
306
00:12:31,358 --> 00:12:32,695
‐ Really?
‐ And so I had an eye patch,
307
00:12:32,762 --> 00:12:34,732
and then I had a special one
that went over my glasses.
308
00:12:34,799 --> 00:12:36,235
‐ Oh, no.
‐ I went to a private school.
309
00:12:36,302 --> 00:12:38,507
In private school, like,
no one makes fun of anyone
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because it's‐‐
'cause public school,
311
00:12:39,842 --> 00:12:41,846
it's like, "Yeah!
You know, think fast, nerd."
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‐ Right.
‐ And in private school,
313
00:12:43,316 --> 00:12:44,284
it's like, "We don't know
how rich your parents are,
314
00:12:44,351 --> 00:12:45,821
so let's err on the side
of caution."
315
00:12:45,888 --> 00:12:47,558
[ laughter and applause ]
316
00:12:47,625 --> 00:12:51,733
I was, like, an emergency moron
in school.
317
00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:54,037
Like, I mean, they didn't know
what to do.
318
00:12:54,104 --> 00:12:58,179
There was a lot of meetings
about me, just like Ds, Fs.
319
00:12:58,246 --> 00:12:59,716
They were just like,
"Uh, yeah, she's‐‐
320
00:12:59,782 --> 00:13:02,287
I mean, we don't know why
she's dumb."
321
00:13:02,354 --> 00:13:05,460
I loved voices.
I loved affectations
322
00:13:05,527 --> 00:13:07,430
and how people speak,
so since I was little,
323
00:13:07,498 --> 00:13:10,069
I would get attention
that way.
324
00:13:10,136 --> 00:13:11,706
But I couldn't learn.
325
00:13:11,773 --> 00:13:14,579
I couldn't stuff information
in my brain,
326
00:13:14,646 --> 00:13:16,482
so I moved to New York
when I was 17
327
00:13:16,549 --> 00:13:20,891
with this guy and his band
called Dick Sister.
328
00:13:20,958 --> 00:13:24,031
All I knew is that I really
loved stand‐up comedy.
329
00:13:24,097 --> 00:13:25,935
I love the artform
and I knew that I was
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meant to do it
in some capacity.
331
00:13:29,474 --> 00:13:32,280
But there was
no real aspirations
332
00:13:32,347 --> 00:13:36,255
of stardom or success,
'cause I'd never seen
333
00:13:36,322 --> 00:13:38,694
Asian Americans do that,
and I'd never seen,
334
00:13:38,760 --> 00:13:41,499
really, that many women
doing that.
335
00:13:41,566 --> 00:13:45,373
You know, maybe I would get
to open for a big star
336
00:13:45,440 --> 00:13:47,243
when they came
into San Francisco.
337
00:13:47,310 --> 00:13:51,853
Maybe I could be a weatherwoman
in the local news.
338
00:13:51,920 --> 00:13:55,527
I think I had a good childhood,
my mother asked me to tell you.
339
00:13:55,594 --> 00:13:57,197
Um, no, but I had, like,
a lemonade stand
340
00:13:57,264 --> 00:13:59,067
with a 2‐drink minimum.
341
00:13:59,134 --> 00:14:02,808
I was clinically depressed.
342
00:14:02,875 --> 00:14:04,812
For me, personally, it was that
343
00:14:04,879 --> 00:14:06,883
it didn't seem like I made
a difference.
344
00:14:06,950 --> 00:14:11,025
It gave me an identity
to be the funny one.
345
00:14:11,091 --> 00:14:12,294
Wendy Liebman,
ladies and gentlemen.
346
00:14:12,360 --> 00:14:14,264
Let's talk about
your coming up.
347
00:14:14,331 --> 00:14:16,168
How was St. Louis growing up?
348
00:14:16,235 --> 00:14:18,172
It was great. It was‐‐
I had the best childhood.
349
00:14:18,239 --> 00:14:19,542
‐ I l‐‐ Yeah.
‐ Really?
350
00:14:19,609 --> 00:14:20,544
Well, something's wrong already.
Hang on.
351
00:14:20,611 --> 00:14:22,782
‐ Okay.
‐ Cannot compute.
352
00:14:22,848 --> 00:14:24,117
Did you say you had a sister
that you‐‐
353
00:14:24,184 --> 00:14:25,654
Yeah, I had
a really beautiful sister.
354
00:14:25,721 --> 00:14:26,990
Was that why you started
searching for ways
355
00:14:27,057 --> 00:14:29,127
to get attention
and found comedy?
356
00:14:29,194 --> 00:14:31,332
Yeah, I had buck teeth
and no value,
357
00:14:31,398 --> 00:14:33,603
and so I was like, I have to
come up with something.
358
00:14:33,670 --> 00:14:37,043
Here we are in our condo.
Kids watching TV.
359
00:14:37,110 --> 00:14:39,782
It's the best talk show ever.
360
00:14:39,849 --> 00:14:41,886
I loved Hollywood,
and I loved models,
361
00:14:41,953 --> 00:14:43,590
and I wanted to be them.
362
00:14:43,657 --> 00:14:44,859
Like, I just knew
when I was a kid,
363
00:14:44,926 --> 00:14:47,698
like, that I was gonna make it
happen somehow.
364
00:14:47,765 --> 00:14:49,001
[ giggles ]
365
00:14:49,067 --> 00:14:52,541
But then I realized I wasn't
as pretty as my sister
366
00:14:52,608 --> 00:14:54,579
and that the pretty girls
were getting the roles
367
00:14:54,645 --> 00:14:55,881
in the plays.
368
00:14:55,948 --> 00:14:57,317
Mmm.
369
00:14:57,384 --> 00:15:00,390
Everywhere my mom took us,
people would stop my mom
370
00:15:00,456 --> 00:15:02,595
and be like, "This child
needs to be a model"
371
00:15:02,662 --> 00:15:04,532
about my sister,
and I would literally, like,
372
00:15:04,599 --> 00:15:07,337
creep from behind my mom's legs
like Nosferatu,
373
00:15:07,404 --> 00:15:09,642
like, "What should I be?"
[ laughter ]
374
00:15:09,709 --> 00:15:12,080
Just waiting.
375
00:15:12,147 --> 00:15:13,416
And what about me?
376
00:15:13,482 --> 00:15:15,754
What's my future hold?
377
00:15:15,821 --> 00:15:17,758
I had a therapist.
She used to yell at me
378
00:15:17,825 --> 00:15:20,463
and be like,
"You're not a beauty.
379
00:15:20,531 --> 00:15:22,300
"You're average‐looking,
and it's enough,
380
00:15:22,367 --> 00:15:23,603
and it's fine."
‐ Oh, my God.
381
00:15:23,670 --> 00:15:24,906
Yeah, she was really,
really harsh.
382
00:15:24,972 --> 00:15:27,611
‐ Oh, my God.
‐ I've had some bad therapists.
383
00:15:27,678 --> 00:15:31,018
‐ I go to therapy, too.
‐ [ laughter ]
384
00:15:31,085 --> 00:15:33,623
I have to.
385
00:15:33,690 --> 00:15:35,761
Mine is very expensive, too.
I actually told her.
386
00:15:35,828 --> 00:15:37,230
I said, "You know,
you're too expensive.
387
00:15:37,297 --> 00:15:38,567
I don't think I can afford you."
388
00:15:38,633 --> 00:15:40,236
And she just looked at me,
and she said,
389
00:15:40,303 --> 00:15:42,742
"Let's talk about why that is."
390
00:15:42,808 --> 00:15:45,514
[ laughter ]
391
00:15:45,581 --> 00:15:48,319
I grew up in Chicago,
Highland Park,
392
00:15:48,386 --> 00:15:50,657
which is
a very white neighborhood.
393
00:15:50,724 --> 00:15:52,661
They weren't racist
at my school,
394
00:15:52,728 --> 00:15:55,433
but when I went to camp,
it was really bad.
395
00:15:55,501 --> 00:15:58,339
They would say things like,
"She's‐‐Her skin's dirty."
396
00:15:58,406 --> 00:16:01,713
You know,
"She looks like she smells."
397
00:16:01,780 --> 00:16:03,917
They would say awful, awful
things on the bus.
398
00:16:03,984 --> 00:16:05,654
Bus driver never said anything.
399
00:16:05,721 --> 00:16:09,027
Back then, you just had to learn
how to live with it,
400
00:16:09,094 --> 00:16:12,902
and one of the ways I did
was by being funny.
401
00:16:12,968 --> 00:16:15,841
I didn't know that I had a thing
for comedy.
402
00:16:15,908 --> 00:16:19,849
I had no idea.
403
00:16:19,916 --> 00:16:23,990
My mother was a big yeller.
She was‐‐had a lot of rage.
404
00:16:24,057 --> 00:16:26,896
She had these rageful attacks
when we were growing up,
405
00:16:26,963 --> 00:16:28,733
and I think I was
that middle child
406
00:16:28,800 --> 00:16:31,973
who could make Mom laugh to
defuse the tension in the house.
407
00:16:32,040 --> 00:16:33,476
Looking at this head,
it reminds me to go home
408
00:16:33,543 --> 00:16:35,647
and clean my dildo.
409
00:16:35,714 --> 00:16:36,983
[ laughter ]
410
00:16:37,050 --> 00:16:41,559
[ snorts ] That's not true.
Mine's black. Anyway...
411
00:16:41,626 --> 00:16:44,932
So I as a comic was doing jokes
to shut everybody up
412
00:16:44,999 --> 00:16:47,103
before they get to me.
413
00:16:47,170 --> 00:16:49,307
Wait a minute.
You're Hispanic?
414
00:16:49,374 --> 00:16:52,113
Oh, my God.
You look so employed.
415
00:16:52,180 --> 00:16:53,683
[ laughter ]
416
00:16:53,750 --> 00:16:56,589
I'm pretty sure 90% of my stuff
is all these insults
417
00:16:56,656 --> 00:16:58,125
making fun of the audience.
418
00:16:58,192 --> 00:17:02,333
I'm glad you people like me
because my mother hates me.
419
00:17:02,400 --> 00:17:03,970
[ laughter ]
420
00:17:04,037 --> 00:17:05,541
In my own family,
421
00:17:05,607 --> 00:17:09,816
I've always known laughter
to be the most healing thing.
422
00:17:09,882 --> 00:17:14,291
Everyone in the family has
touched trauma in some way.
423
00:17:14,357 --> 00:17:17,765
It's mostly not something
we talk about.
424
00:17:17,832 --> 00:17:20,470
So we choose to laugh
at funerals.
425
00:17:20,537 --> 00:17:24,679
We choose to laugh when
somebody's getting divorced.
426
00:17:24,745 --> 00:17:27,350
Someone has the job
to make things funny.
427
00:17:27,417 --> 00:17:30,089
We look to that person,
and it helps.
428
00:17:30,156 --> 00:17:34,130
And I made a choice to be
that person in my family.
429
00:17:34,197 --> 00:17:36,068
A lot of people tell me
430
00:17:36,134 --> 00:17:39,909
that I look really skinny as
a compliment pretty frequently.
431
00:17:39,976 --> 00:17:43,984
They often wanna know the secret
to how I maintain this figure,
432
00:17:44,050 --> 00:17:48,459
and, uh...secret is definitely
Irritable Bowel Syndrome...
433
00:17:48,527 --> 00:17:50,964
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ ...onset by severe stress
434
00:17:51,031 --> 00:17:53,068
and trauma, so... [ laughs ]
435
00:17:53,135 --> 00:17:55,507
I guess a lot of people
want a skinny girlfriend,
436
00:17:55,574 --> 00:17:57,811
but no one wants to know
how the sausage gets made, so...
437
00:17:57,878 --> 00:18:00,349
[ laughter ]
438
00:18:00,416 --> 00:18:01,418
Fine.
439
00:18:01,485 --> 00:18:02,238
[ applause ]
440
00:18:08,465 --> 00:18:13,910
♪♪♪♪♪♪
441
00:18:13,977 --> 00:18:16,950
Jerry, who are
your favorite female comedians?
442
00:18:17,016 --> 00:18:19,755
My favorite female comedian
was Cary Grant.
443
00:18:19,822 --> 00:18:21,926
[ laughter ]
444
00:18:21,993 --> 00:18:28,540
I cannot sit and watch a lady
diminish her qualities
445
00:18:28,607 --> 00:18:31,078
to the lowest
common denominator.
446
00:18:31,144 --> 00:18:33,048
I just can't do that.
447
00:18:33,115 --> 00:18:35,587
You know what you look like
normally?
448
00:18:35,654 --> 00:18:37,323
You look like the lady
that looks in the fun mirror
449
00:18:37,390 --> 00:18:39,662
at the Palisades Park.
450
00:18:39,729 --> 00:18:41,666
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ Short and fat.
451
00:18:41,733 --> 00:18:45,439
But you're regular like that.
Did you ever notice?
452
00:18:45,507 --> 00:18:47,578
I look in the mirror.
I see Raquel Welch.
453
00:18:47,645 --> 00:18:49,281
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ I swear!
454
00:18:49,347 --> 00:18:50,584
She's staying with you?
455
00:18:50,651 --> 00:18:52,821
No, I got a picture of her
in my mirror.
456
00:18:52,888 --> 00:18:53,790
[ laughter ]
457
00:18:53,857 --> 00:18:55,326
You're different
from other girls.
458
00:18:55,393 --> 00:18:57,397
That's what you think.
459
00:18:57,463 --> 00:19:00,671
You're smarter.
You're almost like a man.
460
00:19:00,737 --> 00:19:05,246
As a little kid, I really didn't
understand, like,
461
00:19:05,313 --> 00:19:10,389
why does he get to do that,
and I have to do this?
462
00:19:10,456 --> 00:19:12,427
Just 'cause he's a boy?
463
00:19:12,494 --> 00:19:16,368
Like, I was really floored
by that.
464
00:19:16,435 --> 00:19:18,740
MALE NARRATOR: Carol took
a general home economics course,
465
00:19:18,807 --> 00:19:22,013
one which fitted her
for that very important career
466
00:19:22,080 --> 00:19:24,117
of being Mrs. Johnson.
467
00:19:24,184 --> 00:19:25,921
She was glad that
her college training
468
00:19:25,988 --> 00:19:28,259
had prepared her so well
for home life.
469
00:19:28,325 --> 00:19:31,064
The idea of what femininity is,
470
00:19:31,131 --> 00:19:34,070
and in a lot of people's minds,
still is,
471
00:19:34,137 --> 00:19:38,713
is dainty, quiet, ladylike.
472
00:19:38,780 --> 00:19:42,153
You learn
the most ladylike thing
473
00:19:42,220 --> 00:19:44,291
is to shut your fucking mouth
474
00:19:44,357 --> 00:19:48,566
and not have an opinion
and whatever your husband says.
475
00:19:48,633 --> 00:19:52,073
And here were these women comics
who were like,
476
00:19:52,140 --> 00:19:55,547
"Don't tell me what I can say.
Don't tell me what I can do.
477
00:19:55,614 --> 00:19:58,018
Go fuck yourself."
478
00:19:58,085 --> 00:19:59,054
[ applause ]
479
00:19:59,120 --> 00:20:01,592
[ laughs ]
480
00:20:01,659 --> 00:20:03,295
Thank you, children.
Thank you, darling.
481
00:20:03,362 --> 00:20:06,368
I know you children are all
relaxed back there,
482
00:20:06,435 --> 00:20:08,138
sitting back there,
looking at Moms.
483
00:20:08,205 --> 00:20:12,447
You think you're going to hear
some jokes, don't you?
484
00:20:12,514 --> 00:20:15,319
Well, Moms don't know none.
485
00:20:15,386 --> 00:20:20,664
Moms don't know no jokes,
but I can tell you some facts.
486
00:20:20,731 --> 00:20:24,471
Moms Mabley‐‐I admire her
on so many levels
487
00:20:24,538 --> 00:20:28,546
because she, in order to really
get out there and tell her truth
488
00:20:28,613 --> 00:20:31,184
and for people to‐‐
for it to be palatable
489
00:20:31,251 --> 00:20:34,659
to an audience, she had to dress
like an old woman.
490
00:20:34,725 --> 00:20:36,996
She was very opinionated,
but in order for them
491
00:20:37,063 --> 00:20:41,706
to accept what she had to say,
she had to be an old woman.
492
00:20:41,773 --> 00:20:43,610
What do they call‐‐Do they call
you Jackie down there or Moms?
493
00:20:43,677 --> 00:20:45,847
I've never known. It's Jackie?
494
00:20:45,914 --> 00:20:47,150
No, they like me down there
to tell the truth.
495
00:20:47,216 --> 00:20:48,419
Yeah.
496
00:20:48,485 --> 00:20:49,889
They named me
Roy Rogers' horse.
497
00:20:49,955 --> 00:20:51,224
‐ Trigger?
‐ Trigger, yeah.
498
00:20:51,291 --> 00:20:52,728
That's what they call you
in the South?
499
00:20:52,795 --> 00:20:55,366
Yeah. Everywhere I go,
"Hello, Trigger!
500
00:20:55,433 --> 00:20:58,540
What you say, Trigger?"
501
00:20:58,606 --> 00:21:01,044
At least I think that's what
they said.
502
00:21:01,111 --> 00:21:03,650
[ laughter ]
503
00:21:03,717 --> 00:21:06,355
In the beginning,
it was a lot of people
504
00:21:06,421 --> 00:21:09,762
that people don't know about‐‐
Totie Fields, Belle Barth.
505
00:21:09,829 --> 00:21:11,999
Sophie Tucker, Jean Carroll,
506
00:21:12,066 --> 00:21:13,703
who doesn't get enough credit
at all
507
00:21:13,770 --> 00:21:17,845
for being one of
the first female stand‐ups.
508
00:21:17,911 --> 00:21:19,849
When I said, "And I'll buy
something in satin
509
00:21:19,915 --> 00:21:21,586
to match my eyes," she said,
510
00:21:21,652 --> 00:21:23,523
"We have no bloodshot satin
in stock."
511
00:21:23,590 --> 00:21:24,859
[ laughter ]
512
00:21:24,925 --> 00:21:26,929
Well, I said,
"If you don't mind,
513
00:21:26,996 --> 00:21:28,800
I'd like to bring my husband
down and have him look at it."
514
00:21:28,867 --> 00:21:30,537
She says,
"Jenny, look who's married."
515
00:21:30,604 --> 00:21:33,475
[ laughter ]
516
00:21:33,543 --> 00:21:37,483
You go back and look at all‐‐
women would get onstage,
517
00:21:37,551 --> 00:21:40,590
acknowledge that
they're pieces of shit,
518
00:21:40,657 --> 00:21:43,462
and then go,
"Okay, so here are my jokes."
519
00:21:43,530 --> 00:21:44,732
It was like,
"Hi. I know I'm a woman.
520
00:21:44,799 --> 00:21:46,969
"I know I should be home
with my kids
521
00:21:47,036 --> 00:21:48,840
"so I'm going to
acknowledge that and then,
522
00:21:48,907 --> 00:21:50,744
can you listen to my jokes,
please?"
523
00:21:50,811 --> 00:21:53,282
But look, I love my work.
I really do.
524
00:21:53,348 --> 00:21:55,019
Of course, it's scary.
The lights scare me to death.
525
00:21:55,086 --> 00:21:57,758
Boy, you see they're so bright.
Like, when I was a housewife,
526
00:21:57,825 --> 00:21:59,728
if I ever had this much light
on me,
527
00:21:59,795 --> 00:22:02,568
when I woke up,
I had another kid.
528
00:22:02,634 --> 00:22:05,607
[ laughter ]
529
00:22:11,251 --> 00:22:13,255
Isn't that amazing?
530
00:22:14,492 --> 00:22:16,161
Or...
531
00:22:16,228 --> 00:22:17,196
[ laughter ]
532
00:22:35,166 --> 00:22:36,602
Well...
533
00:22:39,407 --> 00:22:41,946
I can't even imagine doing
stand‐up at that time.
534
00:22:42,013 --> 00:22:44,919
I‐I don't even know
how these women did it.
535
00:22:44,985 --> 00:22:46,923
Well,
here's my daffy little friend.
536
00:22:46,989 --> 00:22:50,296
Our daffy little friend.
My little pixie friend.
537
00:22:50,362 --> 00:22:52,300
Little Joan Rivers.
538
00:22:52,366 --> 00:22:57,210
[ applause ]
539
00:22:57,276 --> 00:22:58,513
♪♪♪♪♪♪
540
00:22:58,580 --> 00:23:01,652
I loved Joan so much.
541
00:23:01,719 --> 00:23:07,764
Here's this brash Jewish woman
on television with opinions.
542
00:23:07,831 --> 00:23:09,935
Well, it's all sex.
That magazine, you know,
543
00:23:10,002 --> 00:23:11,338
the lead article‐‐
"How to use your breasts
544
00:23:11,404 --> 00:23:13,676
to get a better apartment,"
and it's like, you know...
545
00:23:13,743 --> 00:23:15,179
[ laughter ]
546
00:23:15,246 --> 00:23:16,616
Ding‐dong.
547
00:23:16,682 --> 00:23:17,651
[ laughter ]
548
00:23:17,718 --> 00:23:20,256
She was hysterical.
549
00:23:20,322 --> 00:23:25,466
You know, on a show with
the whitest guy in the universe,
550
00:23:25,534 --> 00:23:29,374
like, Nebraska,
making him laugh.
551
00:23:29,440 --> 00:23:31,679
I had no idea where
you were going there.
552
00:23:31,746 --> 00:23:33,883
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ You‐‐You always amaze me.
553
00:23:33,950 --> 00:23:38,726
It was like, oh, that's‐‐
that's what I wanna be.
554
00:23:38,793 --> 00:23:41,464
♪♪♪♪♪♪
555
00:23:41,532 --> 00:23:44,705
I saw Wanda onstage in college,
556
00:23:44,772 --> 00:23:46,943
and she was
the first Black woman
557
00:23:47,009 --> 00:23:48,880
that reminded me of myself.
558
00:23:48,947 --> 00:23:50,984
I was like, "I can do this."
559
00:23:51,051 --> 00:23:53,255
Now you see,
that's love right there.
560
00:23:53,322 --> 00:23:54,792
I remember doing improv
in high school,
561
00:23:54,859 --> 00:23:56,161
and the boys would always grab
the mic first,
562
00:23:56,228 --> 00:23:57,664
and I remember thinking, like,
"You motherfucker,
563
00:23:57,731 --> 00:23:59,501
"I'm gonna do this for a living,
564
00:23:59,568 --> 00:24:02,674
so quit hogging the mic
with your garbage jokes."
565
00:24:02,741 --> 00:24:04,310
It never occurred to me, like,
566
00:24:04,377 --> 00:24:06,481
I'm a girl.
I can't get up there.
567
00:24:06,549 --> 00:24:07,718
I didn't wanna do stand‐up.
568
00:24:07,784 --> 00:24:10,422
I didn't think I was
a good performer,
569
00:24:10,489 --> 00:24:11,893
but I love writing jokes.
570
00:24:11,959 --> 00:24:15,867
So on my 23rd birthday,
I booked myself on an open mic,
571
00:24:15,934 --> 00:24:18,071
and I went down.
572
00:24:18,138 --> 00:24:21,913
I was just frozen with fear.
573
00:24:21,979 --> 00:24:23,583
I was not fulfilled.
574
00:24:23,650 --> 00:24:27,256
I had such low self‐worth.
My mom was very sick,
575
00:24:27,323 --> 00:24:30,296
'cause I had a sister
that was on drugs.
576
00:24:30,362 --> 00:24:31,933
I just wasn't happy.
577
00:24:31,999 --> 00:24:34,838
Just feeling frustration,
578
00:24:34,905 --> 00:24:37,410
like I'd just
shut everything down.
579
00:24:37,476 --> 00:24:40,082
It's almost like it just
filled up so much
580
00:24:40,149 --> 00:24:43,055
that I was, like,
I need to speak.
581
00:24:43,121 --> 00:24:44,825
My voice has to come out.
582
00:24:44,892 --> 00:24:46,829
Carmen Lynch, everybody.
583
00:24:46,896 --> 00:24:49,400
[ cheers and applause ]
584
00:24:49,467 --> 00:24:50,904
It was a huge step for me.
585
00:24:50,971 --> 00:24:53,175
Sometimes I'm shocked
that I did it.
586
00:24:53,241 --> 00:24:55,312
I did really well.
I was like...
587
00:24:55,379 --> 00:24:58,586
this is my calling,
and then, uh,
588
00:24:58,653 --> 00:25:01,926
you know, the next 400 times
I bombed pretty badly.
589
00:25:01,993 --> 00:25:03,963
The first time I got offstage
when I was 18,
590
00:25:04,030 --> 00:25:05,967
I called my dad and was like,
"I know what I wanna do
591
00:25:06,034 --> 00:25:07,771
"for all‐‐forever,
592
00:25:07,838 --> 00:25:09,608
and I'm gonna do it,
and this is it."
593
00:25:09,675 --> 00:25:12,046
We were both crying on the phone
because I was anorexic.
594
00:25:12,113 --> 00:25:14,150
I was still, like,
battling the illness.
595
00:25:14,217 --> 00:25:16,756
It was like, finally,
something that's gonna get me
596
00:25:16,822 --> 00:25:18,793
to figure out how to beat this.
597
00:25:18,860 --> 00:25:22,233
I was like 28,
and I went onstage,
598
00:25:22,300 --> 00:25:25,239
and I killed, and it was
the best feeling in the world.
599
00:25:25,306 --> 00:25:27,443
I was like, this is where
I need to be.
600
00:25:27,511 --> 00:25:29,247
[ applause ]
601
00:25:29,314 --> 00:25:33,823
My life was craziness and chaos,
but once I got on that stage,
602
00:25:33,890 --> 00:25:36,762
it was like life was all good.
603
00:25:36,829 --> 00:25:39,367
It was a peace that settled
over me.
604
00:25:39,434 --> 00:25:44,678
I started at the Comedy Store
performing at 1 in the morning
605
00:25:44,745 --> 00:25:47,350
for four drunk guys,
and it sucked,
606
00:25:47,416 --> 00:25:50,122
but I liked that challenge
of having to be
607
00:25:50,189 --> 00:25:52,093
in the middle of Hollywood.
608
00:25:52,159 --> 00:25:54,999
There's alcohol.
There's cynicism.
609
00:25:55,065 --> 00:25:56,201
And I'm like,
"I'm gonna make you laugh.
610
00:25:56,267 --> 00:25:57,838
"I'm gonna figure it out.
611
00:25:57,904 --> 00:25:59,808
"I might not make you laugh
tonight,
612
00:25:59,875 --> 00:26:01,979
but I'm gonna make you laugh
tomorrow night."
613
00:26:02,046 --> 00:26:04,283
[ cheers and applause ]
614
00:26:04,350 --> 00:26:06,589
[ laughter ]
615
00:26:06,656 --> 00:26:08,860
♪♪♪♪♪♪
616
00:26:08,926 --> 00:26:12,701
There's the dream,
there's the fantasy,
617
00:26:12,768 --> 00:26:16,509
and then there's
the reality check.
618
00:26:16,575 --> 00:26:19,982
I had never understood sexism
619
00:26:20,049 --> 00:26:23,055
until I got
into the comedy scene.
620
00:26:27,964 --> 00:26:31,605
[ faint laughter ]
621
00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:38,853
Yeah, I'm not gonna guide
any lady through comedy.
622
00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:40,322
That would take me, uh,
first of all,
623
00:26:40,389 --> 00:26:42,694
I'd have to figure out
how a lady could do comedy.
624
00:26:42,761 --> 00:26:44,765
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ You know?
625
00:26:44,832 --> 00:26:46,267
And then I'd have to...
626
00:26:46,334 --> 00:26:47,704
‐ [ laughter continues ]
‐ Wow!
627
00:26:47,771 --> 00:26:49,508
‐ There was no‐‐
‐ Easy, Jerry Lewis.
628
00:26:49,575 --> 00:26:52,012
Stand‐up comedy's
a different kind of thing,
629
00:26:52,079 --> 00:26:53,448
for some reason.
‐ Yeah. Yes.
630
00:26:53,516 --> 00:26:56,622
Why do you think it is that guys
are only funny in that?
631
00:26:56,689 --> 00:26:58,392
‐ What is it?
‐ Artie?
632
00:26:58,458 --> 00:26:59,628
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ I don't‐‐I mean,
633
00:26:59,695 --> 00:27:01,331
I just think that it's
a man's world, you know?
634
00:27:01,398 --> 00:27:04,470
‐ I, uh, I‐I‐I don't, uh‐‐
‐ Is that the answer, though?
635
00:27:04,538 --> 00:27:05,874
‐ Yeah, that's‐‐
‐ Can that be the answer?
636
00:27:05,940 --> 00:27:07,376
It's a man's world?
637
00:27:07,443 --> 00:27:10,617
Still, to this day,
you hear over and over and over,
638
00:27:10,683 --> 00:27:13,021
"Women aren't funny.
Women aren't funny."
639
00:27:13,088 --> 00:27:14,424
It's ridiculous!
640
00:27:14,490 --> 00:27:16,629
There are funny men
and funny women.
641
00:27:16,695 --> 00:27:22,139
But I do understand that men
might not want women to be funny.
642
00:27:22,206 --> 00:27:24,177
‐ [ applause ]
‐ Wow, San Francisco.
643
00:27:24,243 --> 00:27:25,713
People are so friendly here.
I was on the cable car,
644
00:27:25,780 --> 00:27:29,020
and this guy offered me
a seat on his lap, and...
645
00:27:29,087 --> 00:27:30,389
[ laughter ]
646
00:27:30,456 --> 00:27:32,794
Then he got off,
but I‐I was gonna, um...
647
00:27:32,861 --> 00:27:34,498
[ laughter ]
648
00:27:34,565 --> 00:27:37,036
What? It was his stop.
649
00:27:37,103 --> 00:27:38,305
Where do you think that idea
650
00:27:38,371 --> 00:27:40,175
that women aren't funny
came from?
651
00:27:40,242 --> 00:27:42,279
I thought we weren't gonna
talk about this question.
652
00:27:42,346 --> 00:27:43,448
We're not gonna talk
about the fact
653
00:27:43,516 --> 00:27:45,018
that women aren't funny
'cause they are,
654
00:27:45,085 --> 00:27:46,555
but where do you think
the idea came from?
655
00:27:46,622 --> 00:27:48,125
It's not what I think.
It's what I know.
656
00:27:48,191 --> 00:27:50,262
And the answer is
men have always
657
00:27:50,329 --> 00:27:52,901
gotten to do things first,
658
00:27:52,968 --> 00:27:54,605
whether it's owning property
659
00:27:54,671 --> 00:27:57,644
or having freedom of speech
or anything fun,
660
00:27:57,711 --> 00:28:00,517
and expressing yourselves,
men got to do it first.
661
00:28:00,583 --> 00:28:03,088
So by sheer numbers,
662
00:28:03,155 --> 00:28:05,325
more men have been doing comedy
for longer
663
00:28:05,392 --> 00:28:07,263
because women for so long
were expected to stay home,
664
00:28:07,329 --> 00:28:08,566
have children, and then die.
665
00:28:08,633 --> 00:28:11,972
‐ That's pretty harsh.
‐ Well, so's your coffee.
666
00:28:12,039 --> 00:28:13,776
So it's not that women
aren't funny.
667
00:28:13,843 --> 00:28:16,247
Women weren't allowed
to express themselves,
668
00:28:16,314 --> 00:28:18,118
and they weren't allowed
to do it on a larger platform.
669
00:28:18,185 --> 00:28:22,627
I'm Lila, and I‐I don't know
what I'm doing.
670
00:28:22,694 --> 00:28:25,098
Way too often, I would hear,
671
00:28:25,165 --> 00:28:27,537
"Oh, we had a woman here
three months ago.
672
00:28:27,604 --> 00:28:33,114
She didn't do well, so we're not
booking women at this time."
673
00:28:33,181 --> 00:28:34,885
It used to be like if
you were doing shows, like,
674
00:28:34,952 --> 00:28:36,622
even up to the '90s,
675
00:28:36,689 --> 00:28:39,427
comedians would bring on
a female comedian,
676
00:28:39,495 --> 00:28:42,333
and they would say,
"Okay, we got a woman,"
677
00:28:42,399 --> 00:28:48,278
and people would go, "Ugh!"
Like, how dare you? [ laughs ]
678
00:28:48,345 --> 00:28:50,617
Sometimes they would put
their head on, they just...
679
00:28:50,683 --> 00:28:53,556
put their head right down
on the table and not watch you.
680
00:28:53,623 --> 00:28:57,196
There's always this guy
at every show that I do‐‐
681
00:28:57,263 --> 00:28:59,668
the arms folded, like,
"You ain't gonna be funny
682
00:28:59,735 --> 00:29:01,404
'cause you a bitch" guy.
683
00:29:01,471 --> 00:29:02,774
[ laughter ]
684
00:29:02,841 --> 00:29:04,511
Now, sir, I know you have
your arms folded the whole time.
685
00:29:04,578 --> 00:29:06,515
No, no, no, no. No, shut up.
No, he's great.
686
00:29:06,582 --> 00:29:08,251
He's laughed
at every single joke.
687
00:29:08,318 --> 00:29:11,224
The arms folded was just to
separate the tits from the gut.
688
00:29:11,291 --> 00:29:14,163
‐ I get it.
‐ [ laughter ]
689
00:29:14,230 --> 00:29:17,771
Tit sweat is a bitch.
I've been a victim of it myself.
690
00:29:17,837 --> 00:29:20,710
You'll see the evolvement
through the show
691
00:29:20,777 --> 00:29:22,847
where they're like this and...
692
00:29:22,914 --> 00:29:26,154
then like, 10 minutes later,
they're like this.
693
00:29:26,221 --> 00:29:29,327
And then by the end of the show,
they're like...
694
00:29:29,393 --> 00:29:31,765
They will be the first ones
in the meet and greet line,
695
00:29:31,832 --> 00:29:34,738
being like,
"I didn't wanna come tonight.
696
00:29:34,805 --> 00:29:37,343
I thought
this was gonna be garbage."
697
00:29:37,409 --> 00:29:40,850
"I usually hate female comics,
but you're good."
698
00:29:40,917 --> 00:29:42,721
Still have Facebook messages
from, like, 2010,
699
00:29:42,787 --> 00:29:45,860
like, "Women aren't funny,
but I think you are."
700
00:29:45,927 --> 00:29:48,933
I'm like, "Thanks, Mom."
[ laughs ]
701
00:29:49,000 --> 00:29:50,503
‐ [ applause ]
‐ Okay, here we go.
702
00:29:50,570 --> 00:29:52,139
Now we're gonna break it up
with a lovely young lady.
703
00:29:52,206 --> 00:29:54,043
Really, she's funny,
she's lovely,
704
00:29:54,110 --> 00:29:56,481
and she's a good girl, too.
705
00:29:56,548 --> 00:29:59,053
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ I found that out.
706
00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:00,022
This next comic,
you're gonna love her.
707
00:30:00,088 --> 00:30:02,561
She's very good. She's gorgeous.
708
00:30:02,627 --> 00:30:04,363
"We got little lady
coming up here.
709
00:30:04,430 --> 00:30:05,733
"I'll tell you what,
she's funny as a man.
710
00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:07,871
I mean it. Give her a hand."
‐ [ cheers and applause ]
711
00:30:07,938 --> 00:30:09,508
I've been intro'd,
712
00:30:09,575 --> 00:30:12,079
like the fact that I'm a woman
is like a wacky experiment.
713
00:30:12,146 --> 00:30:14,785
They'll be like, "We got
a young lady coming up!"
714
00:30:14,851 --> 00:30:17,089
You know, like,
"Let's see how this goes down."
715
00:30:17,156 --> 00:30:20,597
I think we should start doing it
about men.
716
00:30:20,663 --> 00:30:22,834
"Oh, this next guy coming
to the stage‐‐
717
00:30:22,901 --> 00:30:26,709
his balls are bigger than you've
ever seen in your whole life."
718
00:30:26,775 --> 00:30:28,913
"Yeah. You guys ready
for some big balls?"
719
00:30:28,980 --> 00:30:30,482
‐ "Oh, you guys like testicles?"
‐ Yeah, like especially‐‐
720
00:30:30,550 --> 00:30:31,885
'Cause this guy's
got two of 'em...
721
00:30:31,952 --> 00:30:33,154
Right.
722
00:30:33,221 --> 00:30:34,591
‐ ...as far as we know.
‐ Right.
723
00:30:34,658 --> 00:30:37,229
I think it's indisputable that
there has been a pipeline
724
00:30:37,296 --> 00:30:39,467
where there was a time
when it seemed like
725
00:30:39,534 --> 00:30:41,705
there really was only room
for one.
726
00:30:41,772 --> 00:30:45,312
If there was two women
back to back on a lineup,
727
00:30:45,379 --> 00:30:46,949
they would be like,
"Oh, we just had a woman on,"
728
00:30:47,016 --> 00:30:48,451
so we're gonna put a guy on, and
then we're gonna put you on."
729
00:30:48,519 --> 00:30:49,721
They would say that
to your face.
730
00:30:49,788 --> 00:30:52,560
It's not redundant
because you have two people
731
00:30:52,627 --> 00:30:55,299
of the same race or sex on
back to back,
732
00:30:55,365 --> 00:30:57,804
but they would openly say that
to you.
733
00:30:57,871 --> 00:30:59,473
It's like,
"Oh, we can't go vag, vag."
734
00:30:59,541 --> 00:31:01,512
Um, God forbid. We can go
dick, dick, dick, dick, dick,
735
00:31:01,578 --> 00:31:03,081
but we can't do two vages
in a row.
736
00:31:03,148 --> 00:31:05,152
That would confuse everyone.
737
00:31:05,218 --> 00:31:07,657
Okay, hold on, hold on.
It's a night of honesty.
738
00:31:07,724 --> 00:31:08,759
It's a night of honesty.
739
00:31:08,826 --> 00:31:11,197
Where are the straight guys
who were dragged
740
00:31:11,264 --> 00:31:13,536
by the wife or girlfriend?
741
00:31:13,602 --> 00:31:14,370
[ cheering ]
742
00:31:14,437 --> 00:31:16,407
Yes! I know. I'm sorry, sir.
743
00:31:16,474 --> 00:31:19,213
I don't speak your language.
I'm sorry. I...
744
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:20,683
[ laughter ]
745
00:31:20,750 --> 00:31:23,956
I speak fluent gay.
I took two years in high school,
746
00:31:24,023 --> 00:31:26,361
and it just stuck.
‐ [ cheers and applause ]
747
00:31:26,427 --> 00:31:28,766
As I started doing
stand‐up more,
748
00:31:28,833 --> 00:31:31,204
I would see a lot
of other female comedians,
749
00:31:31,270 --> 00:31:32,774
but I have to be honest.
750
00:31:32,841 --> 00:31:36,481
90% of them just aren't even
in the business anymore.
751
00:31:36,548 --> 00:31:38,218
You know, there's all these
ways that we control each other,
752
00:31:38,284 --> 00:31:41,391
and to an extent, we do that
still as women to one another.
753
00:31:41,457 --> 00:31:43,161
It was hard to like
another woman
754
00:31:43,228 --> 00:31:47,002
because you felt threatened
by, you know, only one person
755
00:31:47,069 --> 00:31:49,306
is gonna get the job.
756
00:31:49,373 --> 00:31:52,346
I was bullied by a female comic
really early on,
757
00:31:52,413 --> 00:31:56,320
like, so bad that I had to,
like, kinda leave town,
758
00:31:56,387 --> 00:31:59,360
like, my home club of‐‐
in St. Louis,
759
00:31:59,427 --> 00:32:01,197
and she was so funny,
and I looked up to her so much,
760
00:32:01,264 --> 00:32:03,168
and all I wanted was
her approval.
761
00:32:03,234 --> 00:32:04,604
[ laughter ]
762
00:32:04,671 --> 00:32:09,046
Girls hate each other,
especially during the day.
763
00:32:09,113 --> 00:32:11,552
But when the moon comes up,
and there's white wine involved,
764
00:32:11,618 --> 00:32:14,023
[ nasally voice ] "Oh, my God.
Stacy, you look amazing.
765
00:32:14,090 --> 00:32:16,729
"I love you.
Can I just tell you?
766
00:32:16,795 --> 00:32:18,799
"I love you. I do.
But you know who I hate?
767
00:32:18,866 --> 00:32:20,737
[ deep voice ] Becky."
768
00:32:20,803 --> 00:32:22,807
[ laughter ]
769
00:32:22,874 --> 00:32:24,745
Yeah, the competition thing,
I mean, you know,
770
00:32:24,811 --> 00:32:27,617
we got this one slot.
We need one woman!
771
00:32:27,684 --> 00:32:29,453
Networks, too. I will never
forget pitching a show
772
00:32:29,521 --> 00:32:31,859
to a network
and them saying to me,
773
00:32:31,925 --> 00:32:35,399
"We already have, like,
a blonde funny woman."
774
00:32:35,465 --> 00:32:37,436
And I was just, like,
"Okay, I'll dye my hair red.
775
00:32:37,504 --> 00:32:39,173
Like, what are
you talking about?"
776
00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:48,425
♪♪♪♪♪♪
777
00:32:48,491 --> 00:32:50,897
[ horn honks in distance ]
778
00:32:50,963 --> 00:32:53,368
♪♪♪♪♪♪
779
00:32:53,435 --> 00:32:56,207
You basically go up
five, seven nights a week
780
00:32:56,274 --> 00:33:01,518
for free at anyplace that has
a coffee shop, a laundromat,
781
00:33:01,585 --> 00:33:05,425
a fuckin' noodle place,
whatever, and practice.
782
00:33:05,493 --> 00:33:07,229
The open mics I used to do
in this city,
783
00:33:07,296 --> 00:33:10,469
I worked in a supermarket where
people would be checking out.
784
00:33:10,536 --> 00:33:12,774
And it was like,
"Hey, wow, you got relish."
785
00:33:12,841 --> 00:33:15,245
Like, it was horrible,"
and we didn't get paid,
786
00:33:15,312 --> 00:33:17,884
but we got to have the salad bar
downstairs.
787
00:33:17,951 --> 00:33:21,658
I moved to L. A., and I was like,
"How do I get stage time?"
788
00:33:21,725 --> 00:33:23,696
And I would contact comics
that had shows,
789
00:33:23,763 --> 00:33:25,767
and I'd be like,
"Can I make your flyers?
790
00:33:25,833 --> 00:33:27,236
Can I jump on?"
791
00:33:27,302 --> 00:33:28,438
Did you guys see this?
792
00:33:28,506 --> 00:33:29,841
Oh, I didn't know
it was gonna be a thing.
793
00:33:29,908 --> 00:33:33,916
How you guys doing?
That's weird. Okay.
794
00:33:33,983 --> 00:33:35,318
Got off work at, like, 6,
and I'd wait till, like, 8,
795
00:33:35,385 --> 00:33:37,222
and I'd go to the bar and I'd
eat my sad chicken finger dinner
796
00:33:37,289 --> 00:33:39,928
and I'd wait for my spot,
which was at, like, 9:30.
797
00:33:39,995 --> 00:33:41,532
And then you'd go get
another one,
798
00:33:41,598 --> 00:33:43,468
and then you would just
cobble together
799
00:33:43,536 --> 00:33:44,838
any spots you could get.
800
00:33:44,905 --> 00:33:47,510
You'd drive to Santa Barbara
on a work night,
801
00:33:47,577 --> 00:33:49,714
because someone would give you
20 minutes.
802
00:33:49,781 --> 00:33:53,455
Just kind of figuring it out
without realizing
803
00:33:53,522 --> 00:33:56,227
what the limitations could be
804
00:33:56,294 --> 00:33:58,732
or anything like that.
Just going.
805
00:33:58,799 --> 00:34:02,406
When I came up, if you weren't
performing every night,
806
00:34:02,473 --> 00:34:04,009
then you weren't serious
about it.
807
00:34:04,076 --> 00:34:07,917
You were always told,
"There's no excuse.
808
00:34:07,984 --> 00:34:11,424
"Do not use being Black
as an excuse.
809
00:34:11,491 --> 00:34:14,063
"Do not use being a woman
as an excuse.
810
00:34:14,129 --> 00:34:16,467
You need to be good at this."
811
00:34:16,535 --> 00:34:18,471
I mean, I do realize
as a Black woman,
812
00:34:18,539 --> 00:34:22,279
which is how I start
every conversation, um...
813
00:34:22,346 --> 00:34:24,083
[ laughter ]
814
00:34:24,149 --> 00:34:26,154
I do realize it is my job
to address what's in the air,
815
00:34:26,220 --> 00:34:28,926
but, um, I have to be honest.
I'm not good at it.
816
00:34:28,993 --> 00:34:30,930
I say things wrong.
817
00:34:30,997 --> 00:34:34,003
Like, I've been messing up
on my pronouns lately,
818
00:34:34,069 --> 00:34:36,909
'cause I met someone who was not
a guy or a girl.
819
00:34:36,975 --> 00:34:40,650
They were a they, which is how
they wanna be referred to,
820
00:34:40,716 --> 00:34:42,452
and that's important.
821
00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:45,192
I care about that.
It's just new to me.
822
00:34:45,258 --> 00:34:48,799
And in a sentence
structurally...
823
00:34:48,866 --> 00:34:52,172
it makes me sound like
a runaway slave.
824
00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:54,978
[ laughter ]
825
00:34:55,045 --> 00:34:56,447
Like, "Where they at?"
826
00:34:56,515 --> 00:34:58,986
[ laughter ]
827
00:34:59,053 --> 00:35:00,288
"They's coming?"
828
00:35:00,355 --> 00:35:05,065
[ laughter ]
829
00:35:05,131 --> 00:35:06,802
"They down by the river?"
830
00:35:06,869 --> 00:35:09,608
[ laughter ]
831
00:35:09,674 --> 00:35:11,377
"They gon' be mad at that joke."
832
00:35:11,444 --> 00:35:13,949
[ laughter ]
833
00:35:14,016 --> 00:35:16,855
Some people are lucky. They find
their voice in, like, 10 years.
834
00:35:16,922 --> 00:35:21,230
But you can't do that unless
you feel comfortable onstage,
835
00:35:21,297 --> 00:35:23,969
and you can't feel comfortable
onstage unless you do it
836
00:35:24,036 --> 00:35:25,405
every fucking night.
837
00:35:25,472 --> 00:35:27,644
Did it feel like
an even playing field
838
00:35:27,710 --> 00:35:30,015
for men and women?
‐ Heck, no. [ laughs ]
839
00:35:30,081 --> 00:35:32,687
An even playing field?
Are you kidding? [ laughs ]
840
00:35:32,754 --> 00:35:34,891
What?! It's not even
an even playing field now.
841
00:35:34,958 --> 00:35:37,764
No, it was never
an even playing field.
842
00:35:37,830 --> 00:35:41,137
It was so hard to get
stage time.
843
00:35:41,203 --> 00:35:42,507
‐ Oh, Lord!
‐ [ laughter ]
844
00:35:42,574 --> 00:35:45,478
As a Black woman,
I had to fight.
845
00:35:45,546 --> 00:35:48,418
I really, really had to fight
for my spots,
846
00:35:48,484 --> 00:35:51,490
and I really, really had
to prove to the comics
847
00:35:51,558 --> 00:35:52,827
that I was funny.
848
00:35:52,894 --> 00:35:54,664
I was at a club,
and a guy had come up to me,
849
00:35:54,731 --> 00:35:56,100
and I was coming out
the bathroom.
850
00:35:56,167 --> 00:35:59,039
He said, "Excuse me, sis."
I said, "No, excuse me!"
851
00:35:59,106 --> 00:36:06,521
[ laughter ]
852
00:36:06,588 --> 00:36:08,926
"I make my own money.
I got my thing goin'.
853
00:36:08,993 --> 00:36:10,328
"I don't need you to tell me
what to do.
854
00:36:10,395 --> 00:36:12,834
"I do my nails. I do my hair.
I got it all covered here.
855
00:36:12,900 --> 00:36:16,942
Now what you want?"
‐ [ laughter ]
856
00:36:17,009 --> 00:36:18,879
He was like,
"I was just gon' tell you
857
00:36:18,946 --> 00:36:21,450
you had some toilet paper
stuck on your shoe."
858
00:36:21,518 --> 00:36:24,991
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ I‐‐Oh. Oh.
859
00:36:25,058 --> 00:36:35,680
♪♪♪♪♪♪
860
00:36:35,746 --> 00:36:37,517
In New York, first of all,
861
00:36:37,583 --> 00:36:39,521
you're lucky if you get
on the schedule,
862
00:36:39,587 --> 00:36:42,860
and then you're gonna get
15 minutes, 10.
863
00:36:42,927 --> 00:36:47,269
On the road, I was getting
30 minutes of stage time
864
00:36:47,336 --> 00:36:49,139
as a feature.
865
00:36:49,206 --> 00:36:50,810
I go to Flint. I'm performing
at this college.
866
00:36:50,876 --> 00:36:52,112
Right before I go onstage,
867
00:36:52,179 --> 00:36:53,615
I go up
to the student body president.
868
00:36:53,682 --> 00:36:55,686
I said, "Look, I just need
to know for my act.
869
00:36:55,753 --> 00:36:58,491
Do you guys have any Jews here?"
870
00:36:58,559 --> 00:37:01,030
She goes, "Juice?
Yeah, we've got, um,
871
00:37:01,097 --> 00:37:03,167
apple juice, grape juice,
and orange juice."
872
00:37:03,234 --> 00:37:08,011
[ laughter ]
873
00:37:11,718 --> 00:37:15,058
This is every hotel key card
that I've used
874
00:37:15,125 --> 00:37:17,396
since around maybe 2010.
875
00:37:17,462 --> 00:37:18,866
I don't use my own name
when I check in.
876
00:37:18,932 --> 00:37:20,970
So a lot of these
have a fake name.
877
00:37:21,037 --> 00:37:24,176
You can kind of, like, uh,
relive your life.
878
00:37:24,243 --> 00:37:28,051
You can demarcate it
by hotel star ratings.
879
00:37:28,117 --> 00:37:31,958
Some of the clubs would buy
condominiums.
880
00:37:32,025 --> 00:37:34,329
Did anyone talk about this?
Oh, my God.
881
00:37:34,396 --> 00:37:35,966
♪♪♪♪♪♪
882
00:37:36,033 --> 00:37:38,572
Welcome to the comedy convo
at the Tampa Improv.
883
00:37:38,639 --> 00:37:40,008
Not actually
at the Tampa Improv.
884
00:37:40,075 --> 00:37:42,647
Kind of a couple blocks
down the street
885
00:37:42,714 --> 00:37:44,851
into a pretty dangerous
neighborhood.
886
00:37:44,918 --> 00:37:46,722
There's no emcee staying
with me.
887
00:37:46,788 --> 00:37:49,694
Um, he actually lives
in this, uh, complex
888
00:37:49,761 --> 00:37:51,565
in another condo.
889
00:37:51,631 --> 00:37:54,504
Here I am,
this sort of sheltered girl.
890
00:37:54,571 --> 00:37:58,010
I'm living with two guys
I don't know for a week.
891
00:37:58,077 --> 00:37:59,914
And you know,
they'd bring home waitresses,
892
00:37:59,981 --> 00:38:02,687
and they'd go‐‐
and I'm sitting there in, like,
893
00:38:02,754 --> 00:38:04,958
in my room with the locked door
reading a book
894
00:38:05,024 --> 00:38:06,661
with, like, you know,
Pauly Shore's cum
895
00:38:06,728 --> 00:38:07,563
on the fucking comforter,
you know?
896
00:38:07,630 --> 00:38:09,266
Ew.
897
00:38:09,333 --> 00:38:13,241
♪♪♪♪♪♪
898
00:38:13,307 --> 00:38:16,748
It's the dues that you
have to pay to sort of get
899
00:38:16,815 --> 00:38:19,521
to where you wanna go.
900
00:38:19,587 --> 00:38:23,394
But it's, like, so sad.
[ laughs ]
901
00:38:23,461 --> 00:38:26,768
You just think,
what if this is my life?
902
00:38:26,835 --> 00:38:28,304
[ scattered laughter ]
903
00:38:28,371 --> 00:38:32,547
I sat down on the couch, and I
started flipping through the TV.
904
00:38:32,613 --> 00:38:34,884
Then I came
upon the Lifetime network.
905
00:38:34,951 --> 00:38:37,389
Now I don't know if you guys
are familiar
906
00:38:37,456 --> 00:38:40,228
with the Lifetime network,
but their slogan is
907
00:38:40,295 --> 00:38:43,167
"Lifetime‐‐
Television for Women."
908
00:38:43,234 --> 00:38:46,708
Now if you were to watch some
of these Lifetime movies,
909
00:38:46,775 --> 00:38:49,647
they are most famous for,
you would notice
910
00:38:49,714 --> 00:38:53,321
they often involve a woman
being murdered,
911
00:38:53,387 --> 00:38:56,628
kidnapped, beaten,
maimed, hoodwinked.
912
00:38:56,695 --> 00:38:58,532
You know, girl stuff.
913
00:38:58,599 --> 00:39:01,838
[ laughter ]
914
00:39:06,347 --> 00:39:08,017
Usually when we're comedians
on the road,
915
00:39:08,084 --> 00:39:09,486
like, they don't give a shit
about us.
916
00:39:09,554 --> 00:39:11,157
They'll just send
any sex offender
917
00:39:11,223 --> 00:39:13,762
to get us from the airport.
‐ [ laughter ]
918
00:39:13,829 --> 00:39:15,966
I was in Alabama,
and they sent this man.
919
00:39:16,033 --> 00:39:17,737
You know when you meet someone
and just right away,
920
00:39:17,804 --> 00:39:19,674
you're like,
"Whoa, you're crazy."
921
00:39:19,741 --> 00:39:23,447
Like, I could feel him
crackling with insanity.
922
00:39:23,515 --> 00:39:25,385
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ Humming with madness.
923
00:39:25,452 --> 00:39:27,990
I got into his car. This is
the first thing he said to me.
924
00:39:28,057 --> 00:39:29,794
This is what he opened with.
He just goes...
925
00:39:29,861 --> 00:39:31,464
[ imitates Southern accent ]
"You is the first Jewish
926
00:39:31,531 --> 00:39:33,535
that I had ever met in my life."
927
00:39:33,602 --> 00:39:34,938
[ laughter ]
928
00:39:35,004 --> 00:39:36,474
[ normal voice ] Which I guess
is better than being
929
00:39:36,541 --> 00:39:38,444
his last Jewish. I'm not sure.
930
00:39:38,512 --> 00:39:40,783
[ laughter ]
931
00:39:40,850 --> 00:39:45,860
♪♪♪♪♪♪
932
00:39:45,926 --> 00:39:47,663
It's tricky because
when somebody asks you
933
00:39:47,730 --> 00:39:49,366
to go on the road,
you don't always know.
934
00:39:49,433 --> 00:39:52,072
You don't know why. Does this
guy really respect my act,
935
00:39:52,138 --> 00:39:55,011
or is he gonna be
just strange and gross
936
00:39:55,078 --> 00:39:57,517
and lascivious all weekend?
937
00:39:57,583 --> 00:39:59,687
They don't know the feeling.
They don't know what it's like
938
00:39:59,754 --> 00:40:02,760
to physically not be as big
as someone
939
00:40:02,827 --> 00:40:04,664
and know that no matter
how much smarter
940
00:40:04,731 --> 00:40:06,066
or funnier you are,
at the end of the day,
941
00:40:06,133 --> 00:40:07,803
if that person wants
to hurt you, then can.
942
00:40:07,870 --> 00:40:10,543
I've had a fan follow me
to my hotel room before
943
00:40:10,609 --> 00:40:13,749
and somehow know my room.
I don't know how he did,
944
00:40:13,815 --> 00:40:15,251
but banging on the door
all night.
945
00:40:15,318 --> 00:40:17,355
I had to call the cops.
It's like, you know,
946
00:40:17,422 --> 00:40:19,059
you're a little bit like, ugh.
947
00:40:19,126 --> 00:40:21,865
You know, of course it was‐‐
I got harassed.
948
00:40:21,932 --> 00:40:23,401
Someone grabbed my boob.
949
00:40:23,467 --> 00:40:25,138
It's happened so many times
where guys casually
950
00:40:25,205 --> 00:40:27,342
just put their hand on my ass
when they're taking a picture.
951
00:40:27,409 --> 00:40:28,512
‐ Right.
‐ And it's‐‐
952
00:40:28,579 --> 00:40:30,516
and no one ever sees it.
I'll have security guards,
953
00:40:30,583 --> 00:40:32,185
like, watching,
and I'll be like,
954
00:40:32,252 --> 00:40:33,689
"Will you just watch for men
touching me in weird places?"
955
00:40:33,755 --> 00:40:34,991
'Cause it's always weird
for me to call out
956
00:40:35,058 --> 00:40:36,628
'cause it's, like,
in front of their wife.
957
00:40:36,695 --> 00:40:37,730
‐ Right.
‐ And I don't wanna
958
00:40:37,797 --> 00:40:38,765
embarrass them
and make it a thing.
959
00:40:38,832 --> 00:40:41,538
I had a guy lick me one time.
960
00:40:41,605 --> 00:40:43,675
And from that point on,
I was like,
961
00:40:43,742 --> 00:40:45,044
there will always be
a security guard.
962
00:40:45,111 --> 00:40:48,919
I've had male comics
follow me in the bathroom
963
00:40:48,986 --> 00:40:51,257
and push open the bathroom stall
before.
964
00:40:51,323 --> 00:40:53,695
I mean, there's‐‐
it goes on and on.
965
00:40:53,762 --> 00:40:56,133
I was working with somebody
on the road,
966
00:40:56,200 --> 00:40:59,406
and he locked me
in the dressing room,
967
00:40:59,473 --> 00:41:03,281
and he came for me.
968
00:41:03,347 --> 00:41:05,118
But he was half my size.
969
00:41:05,184 --> 00:41:07,188
That's really stupid
and insulting
970
00:41:07,255 --> 00:41:12,567
when somebody tries to rape you
and they're half your size.
971
00:41:12,633 --> 00:41:18,912
I've been in so many situations.
I was assaulted by a comic.
972
00:41:18,979 --> 00:41:23,589
It's‐‐It's rough.
973
00:41:23,655 --> 00:41:25,291
You know?
974
00:41:25,358 --> 00:41:29,066
♪♪♪♪♪♪
975
00:41:29,132 --> 00:41:31,303
You gotta be careful.
There are crazy people out there.
976
00:41:31,370 --> 00:41:34,309
You know, I'm sure that's true
for men, too,
977
00:41:34,376 --> 00:41:37,482
but not as much.
978
00:41:42,593 --> 00:41:44,229
And you told me‐‐
979
00:41:44,296 --> 00:41:46,901
[ laughs ]
980
00:42:27,215 --> 00:42:29,286
[ laughs ]
981
00:42:31,758 --> 00:42:33,528
No, that's funny...
982
00:42:40,408 --> 00:42:42,479
Women have so much more
to worry about, huh?
983
00:42:42,546 --> 00:42:44,316
This summer I'm walking
with my boyfriend.
984
00:42:44,383 --> 00:42:46,855
He says to me,
"Gee, it's a beautiful night."
985
00:42:46,921 --> 00:42:49,827
Let's go down by the river."
986
00:42:49,894 --> 00:42:52,700
[ laughs ] I said,
"What are you, nuts?
987
00:42:52,767 --> 00:42:55,238
"I'm not going down
by the river. It's midnight.
988
00:42:55,304 --> 00:42:58,044
"I'm wearing jewelry.
I'm carrying money.
989
00:42:58,110 --> 00:43:00,582
I have a vagina with me."
990
00:43:00,649 --> 00:43:02,653
[ laughter ]
991
00:43:02,720 --> 00:43:05,526
[ cheers, applause,
and whistles ]
992
00:43:05,592 --> 00:43:07,997
Wouldn't it be great
if you would just leave
993
00:43:08,064 --> 00:43:11,136
your pussy at home sometimes?
‐ [ laughter ]
994
00:43:11,203 --> 00:43:12,807
Just think of the freedom
that you will have.
995
00:43:12,873 --> 00:43:14,342
You'd get home from work.
996
00:43:14,409 --> 00:43:16,013
It's getting
a little dark outside.
997
00:43:16,080 --> 00:43:18,150
You're like, ooh, I would like
to go for a jog, but...
998
00:43:18,217 --> 00:43:19,520
[ clicks teeth ]
it's getting too dark.
999
00:43:19,587 --> 00:43:21,457
Oh, I'll just leave it at home.
1000
00:43:21,524 --> 00:43:22,560
And you..
1001
00:43:22,626 --> 00:43:24,062
[ laughter ]
1002
00:43:24,129 --> 00:43:26,668
And you're out jogging.
Yeah, it could be pitch‐black.
1003
00:43:26,735 --> 00:43:30,174
You still out there,
just jogging, enjoying yourself.
1004
00:43:30,241 --> 00:43:32,479
You know, if some crazy guy
just jumps out the bushes,
1005
00:43:32,546 --> 00:43:36,320
like, "Ahh!" You're like,
Oh! I left it at home."
1006
00:43:36,387 --> 00:43:37,523
[ laughter ]
1007
00:43:37,590 --> 00:43:40,395
[ cheers and applause ]
1008
00:43:40,461 --> 00:43:43,668
I didn't wanna fuck
any of the guys.
1009
00:43:43,735 --> 00:43:45,238
I hung out with them.
1010
00:43:45,304 --> 00:43:47,475
I heard every fucking shit
they said about women
1011
00:43:47,543 --> 00:43:50,549
and minorities and Jews
and gay‐‐you know.
1012
00:43:50,616 --> 00:43:52,285
And I was like, okay, great.
Whatever.
1013
00:43:52,352 --> 00:43:56,561
I just wanted to be good
at my craft.
1014
00:43:56,628 --> 00:44:02,405
I didn't let them or anything
get in the way.
1015
00:44:02,472 --> 00:44:13,427
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1016
00:44:13,495 --> 00:44:16,768
‐ How was it?
‐ Ugh. I don't know.
1017
00:44:16,835 --> 00:44:17,903
I'm‐‐I've been on the road.
I don't know what's happening.
1018
00:44:17,970 --> 00:44:19,372
Where‐‐Where have you been?
1019
00:44:19,439 --> 00:44:22,813
‐ I was on, uh, I was at Acme.
‐ Oh, I love Acme.
1020
00:44:22,880 --> 00:44:24,015
I love Acme, too.
It was great.
1021
00:44:24,082 --> 00:44:25,552
I saw your name on the‐‐
on the thing.
1022
00:44:25,619 --> 00:44:26,788
‐ Oh, on the list?
‐ Yeah, yeah.
1023
00:44:26,855 --> 00:44:28,224
On the thing
on the dressing room?
1024
00:44:28,290 --> 00:44:30,562
Yeah. It was fun. Um, but I
just feel disconnected.
1025
00:44:30,629 --> 00:44:32,365
Whenever I come back,
I'm like, exhausted.
1026
00:44:32,432 --> 00:44:34,737
Oh, I know.
You gotta take Sunday off.
1027
00:44:34,804 --> 00:44:36,106
Like, you gotta enjoy the work.
1028
00:44:36,173 --> 00:44:37,175
‐ Yeah.
‐ You know what I mean?
1029
00:44:37,242 --> 00:44:40,414
‐ Yeah.
‐ And you‐‐you wouldn't be
1030
00:44:40,481 --> 00:44:42,653
on the stage if you
didn't deserve to be.
1031
00:44:42,720 --> 00:44:45,759
Yeah. I gotta remember that.
I didn't trick anybody.
1032
00:44:45,826 --> 00:44:48,532
‐ Right. You're not a fraud.
‐ [ laughs ] Yeah.
1033
00:44:48,598 --> 00:44:51,436
You got in here, and you‐‐
do you think the guys, ever,
1034
00:44:51,504 --> 00:44:52,740
when they get in here,
are, like...
1035
00:44:52,807 --> 00:44:54,544
‐ No.
‐ Never.
1036
00:44:54,610 --> 00:44:55,846
You earned that time.
It's your time.
1037
00:44:55,913 --> 00:44:57,516
‐ Yeah.
‐ Don't‐‐
1038
00:44:57,583 --> 00:44:59,620
Don't let them in your head.
It's a process.
1039
00:44:59,687 --> 00:45:00,789
Thank you.
1040
00:45:00,856 --> 00:45:02,025
How long have you been
doing it?
1041
00:45:02,091 --> 00:45:03,562
I appreciate that so much.
1042
00:45:03,628 --> 00:45:05,499
Confidence is only a question
that we only ask women about
1043
00:45:05,566 --> 00:45:09,306
because it's just a given
that men will have it.
1044
00:45:09,372 --> 00:45:11,611
We're always telling unconfident
women to be confident,
1045
00:45:11,678 --> 00:45:13,280
and then when
they get confident,
1046
00:45:13,347 --> 00:45:14,617
we're like, "Why are you
so confident? Tone it down.
1047
00:45:14,684 --> 00:45:16,420
"That's making us feel
less confident.
1048
00:45:16,487 --> 00:45:18,592
Okay. Oh, let's build you
back up, knock you back down."
1049
00:45:18,658 --> 00:45:21,230
We have an obsession
with monitoring
1050
00:45:21,296 --> 00:45:24,102
women's confidence
and their hubris.
1051
00:45:24,169 --> 00:45:25,973
I truly believe
our society operates
1052
00:45:26,039 --> 00:45:28,143
on a currency
of women's insecurities.
1053
00:45:28,210 --> 00:45:29,580
Multibillion‐dollar industries
thriving on, like,
1054
00:45:29,647 --> 00:45:32,118
"Just make them feel like
their bodies are unacceptable
1055
00:45:32,185 --> 00:45:34,456
and then, like,
sell them some shit."
1056
00:45:34,524 --> 00:45:36,226
Look at any magazine.
"Like, you're amazing,
1057
00:45:36,293 --> 00:45:38,865
"but you need to lose,
like, 10 pounds.
1058
00:45:38,932 --> 00:45:40,067
"Love your body. Love your hair.
Whatever you've done is wrong.
1059
00:45:40,134 --> 00:45:41,971
You look like a sea monster."
1060
00:45:42,038 --> 00:45:43,407
[ laughter ]
1061
00:45:43,474 --> 00:45:45,044
Everything's got, like,
a weird mixed message
1062
00:45:45,111 --> 00:45:47,148
and a weird, like,
whore‐y undertone.
1063
00:45:47,215 --> 00:45:48,450
Like, "Be a bad girl.
Own your sexuality,
1064
00:45:48,518 --> 00:45:49,520
but if you fuck more than
one dude, you're a whore."
1065
00:45:49,587 --> 00:45:52,593
Like, everything's wrong.
‐ [ laughter ]
1066
00:45:52,660 --> 00:45:53,562
It's not easy. It's not.
1067
00:45:53,628 --> 00:45:55,933
And men and women
are different, you know?
1068
00:45:55,999 --> 00:45:58,003
Do you ever notice, like, women,
whenever we look in the mirror,
1069
00:45:58,070 --> 00:46:00,876
we're insecure,
we judge ourselves?
1070
00:46:00,943 --> 00:46:02,680
Or just we tear ourselves
apart.
1071
00:46:02,746 --> 00:46:04,416
Just, "Look at me. Look."
1072
00:46:04,482 --> 00:46:06,019
Like, even if you're stunning,
look at my eyes.
1073
00:46:06,086 --> 00:46:10,629
They're like a different shape.
I'm so‐‐Ugh, I hate my hair.
1074
00:46:10,696 --> 00:46:11,731
So unattractive.
1075
00:46:11,798 --> 00:46:14,069
This is how most men
look in the mirror,
1076
00:46:14,135 --> 00:46:16,106
no matter how
horribly unattractive they are.
1077
00:46:16,173 --> 00:46:25,759
[ laughter and applause ]
1078
00:46:25,826 --> 00:46:28,531
I'm fucking hot.
1079
00:46:28,598 --> 00:46:30,502
[ laughter ]
1080
00:46:34,276 --> 00:46:36,413
I know I'm smart.
I know I'm funny.
1081
00:46:36,480 --> 00:46:39,219
I don't question those things.
I do question that I'm pretty.
1082
00:46:39,286 --> 00:46:43,027
And it's so stupid.
It's so stupid to say.
1083
00:46:43,093 --> 00:46:45,231
Um, and it's so sad.
1084
00:46:45,298 --> 00:46:48,270
I know. I wish I could just
accept myself,
1085
00:46:48,337 --> 00:46:53,047
but, um, I was, uh,
I just have really low self‐esteem
1086
00:46:53,113 --> 00:46:57,355
because I was born a woman,
and so, um,
1087
00:46:57,422 --> 00:47:00,061
maybe I was born with it.
Maybe it's Maybelline.
1088
00:47:00,127 --> 00:47:03,167
‐ It'll just be...
‐ Yeah, that's good.
1089
00:47:03,233 --> 00:47:05,539
It's so much easier to be a man.
1090
00:47:05,606 --> 00:47:08,645
I mean, you get it.
You're, like, you see‐‐
1091
00:47:08,712 --> 00:47:12,418
you work with all‐‐
like, mostly men on camera.
1092
00:47:12,485 --> 00:47:15,224
You see what work goes into them
being on camera versus‐‐
1093
00:47:15,291 --> 00:47:16,426
As we sit here
in hair and makeup?
1094
00:47:16,494 --> 00:47:17,997
‐ Yeah.
‐ Yeah, I get it.
1095
00:47:18,063 --> 00:47:20,301
Grateful for you
and what you do,
1096
00:47:20,368 --> 00:47:22,840
but, you know,
ultimately resent it.
1097
00:47:22,906 --> 00:47:24,409
‐ Um...
‐ You are just fed
1098
00:47:24,476 --> 00:47:30,087
from the day‐‐at least I was
from day one, that looks matter.
1099
00:47:30,154 --> 00:47:31,323
Photo shoots
send me into depressions.
1100
00:47:31,390 --> 00:47:33,662
Anything that makes me
focus on my vanity‐‐
1101
00:47:33,728 --> 00:47:37,335
that's what really make me
have anxiety.
1102
00:47:37,402 --> 00:47:39,874
My dad used to tell me
I was so beautiful,
1103
00:47:39,940 --> 00:47:41,511
and I was an ugly child.
1104
00:47:41,577 --> 00:47:42,546
Like, I legit was.
I was diagnosed as one
1105
00:47:42,613 --> 00:47:44,149
at the age of 11
by a caricature artist
1106
00:47:44,215 --> 00:47:46,486
at a Six Flags.
1107
00:47:46,554 --> 00:47:48,658
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ So I have the documentation.
1108
00:47:48,725 --> 00:47:50,127
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1109
00:47:50,194 --> 00:47:52,165
Men look for looks.
Remember that.
1110
00:47:52,231 --> 00:47:54,603
Don't waste your time
learning to read a book.
1111
00:47:54,670 --> 00:47:56,340
[ laughter ]
1112
00:47:56,406 --> 00:47:58,878
I wanna congratulate you. You've
taken off a lot of weight.
1113
00:47:58,945 --> 00:47:59,780
‐ Yeah.
‐ Your hair's different.
1114
00:47:59,847 --> 00:48:02,786
Everything about you
is different.
1115
00:48:02,853 --> 00:48:04,189
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1116
00:48:04,255 --> 00:48:06,159
A lot of really established
comedians‐‐men‐‐
1117
00:48:06,226 --> 00:48:08,999
would say,
"Don't be so pretty.
1118
00:48:09,065 --> 00:48:10,569
"You can't be too pretty.
You can't be too pretty,
1119
00:48:10,635 --> 00:48:12,005
because they're gonna be mad."
1120
00:48:12,071 --> 00:48:14,009
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1121
00:48:14,075 --> 00:48:16,848
"The women will be jealous
because you're so beautiful.
1122
00:48:16,914 --> 00:48:18,484
"The men will just wanna
have sex with you,
1123
00:48:18,551 --> 00:48:22,025
so don't be too pretty.
A beautiful women is a threat."
1124
00:48:22,091 --> 00:48:23,762
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1125
00:48:23,828 --> 00:48:27,736
If you see any patches
of archaic sadness,
1126
00:48:27,803 --> 00:48:29,640
just blot them.
1127
00:48:29,707 --> 00:48:34,717
Just keep plastering
this lie on me.
1128
00:48:34,784 --> 00:48:37,455
Yeah, have some, like,
little dickhead in my head
1129
00:48:37,523 --> 00:48:41,296
that's like, "Hey, you look fat
in that shot."
1130
00:48:41,363 --> 00:48:42,599
So I wish I didn't have
those thoughts.
1131
00:48:42,666 --> 00:48:46,808
All I do is just bat them away
as much as I can.
1132
00:48:46,874 --> 00:48:49,613
You're smart. You're funny.
You're just a little insecure.
1133
00:48:49,680 --> 00:48:51,183
That's all.
1134
00:48:51,249 --> 00:48:52,953
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1135
00:48:53,020 --> 00:48:54,456
My mom was a girly girl,
1136
00:48:54,523 --> 00:48:56,494
so she wanted me
to dress more feminine,
1137
00:48:56,561 --> 00:49:00,434
so she started shopping for me,
and for some reason,
1138
00:49:00,502 --> 00:49:03,207
she started putting me
in these power suits.
1139
00:49:03,273 --> 00:49:04,977
[ laughter ]
1140
00:49:05,044 --> 00:49:10,321
Yeah, like a pantsuit, which is
just an older version of gay.
1141
00:49:10,388 --> 00:49:13,728
I looked like
a 50‐year‐old woman lawyer,
1142
00:49:13,795 --> 00:49:16,734
just going to court
in my power suit.
1143
00:49:16,801 --> 00:49:21,243
Like, who's ready to litigate,
ladies?
1144
00:49:21,309 --> 00:49:23,681
[ laughter ]
1145
00:49:23,748 --> 00:49:25,284
Of course I'm gonna get
called fat.
1146
00:49:25,351 --> 00:49:28,858
I'm gonna get called a dude.
I'm gonna get called whatever.
1147
00:49:28,925 --> 00:49:32,733
You just kinda go, "Huh, okay,"
and move on.
1148
00:49:32,800 --> 00:49:34,537
But I don't understand
shoulder pads.
1149
00:49:34,603 --> 00:49:36,339
Were people just like,
1150
00:49:36,406 --> 00:49:38,444
"Oh, your shoulders
hadn't come in yet.
1151
00:49:38,511 --> 00:49:41,149
Let's get you some pads"?
1152
00:49:41,216 --> 00:49:43,454
But I'm never gonna be like,
1153
00:49:43,521 --> 00:49:46,961
"Oh, God, I felt so fat
up there."
1154
00:49:47,028 --> 00:49:48,832
[ blows raspberry ] Who cares?
1155
00:49:48,898 --> 00:49:52,171
I have achieved more peace
in my body as I've gotten older,
1156
00:49:52,238 --> 00:49:55,277
but it took a long time
to get there.
1157
00:49:55,344 --> 00:49:57,248
Once upon a time,
I had my own TV show
1158
00:49:57,315 --> 00:49:59,452
called "All‐American Girl."
1159
00:49:59,520 --> 00:50:03,427
[ cheers and applause ]
1160
00:50:03,495 --> 00:50:06,601
I got a phone call
from the producer of the show
1161
00:50:06,667 --> 00:50:10,742
that, "The network is concerned.
1162
00:50:10,809 --> 00:50:13,848
"They think that
you're really overweight,
1163
00:50:13,915 --> 00:50:15,719
"and you're gonna have to do
something about it.
1164
00:50:15,786 --> 00:50:19,225
"If you wanna be a star,
if you wanna have a show,
1165
00:50:19,292 --> 00:50:21,062
you're gonna have to do
something."
1166
00:50:21,129 --> 00:50:22,800
I wanted to be a success
at this,
1167
00:50:22,866 --> 00:50:24,703
and I‐I was just willing to do
whatever,
1168
00:50:24,770 --> 00:50:27,275
and if that meant don't eat,
don't eat,
1169
00:50:27,341 --> 00:50:29,379
I just was fine with that.
1170
00:50:29,445 --> 00:50:31,784
I lost 30 pounds in 2 weeks.
1171
00:50:31,851 --> 00:50:33,020
[ audience gasps ]
1172
00:50:33,086 --> 00:50:36,193
And my kidneys collapsed.
1173
00:50:36,259 --> 00:50:37,529
It happened on the set
of the show.
1174
00:50:37,596 --> 00:50:40,669
I guess the network had decided
that my face
1175
00:50:40,735 --> 00:50:45,010
could now fit on the screen.
1176
00:50:45,077 --> 00:50:49,085
The first episode was
about my character,
1177
00:50:49,152 --> 00:50:50,488
and I do stand‐up comedy
1178
00:50:50,555 --> 00:50:53,795
and publicly embarrass
my family.
1179
00:50:53,862 --> 00:50:56,934
So at the end of the episode,
I learned my lesson,
1180
00:50:57,001 --> 00:50:58,237
I go back onstage,
1181
00:50:58,303 --> 00:51:04,683
and I vow never to publicly
embarrass my family again.
1182
00:51:04,750 --> 00:51:07,556
Quentin Tarantino,
who I was dating at the time,
1183
00:51:07,623 --> 00:51:10,294
called me up straightaway.
1184
00:51:10,361 --> 00:51:12,231
"What the fuck was that?"
1185
00:51:12,298 --> 00:51:13,735
[ laughter ]
1186
00:51:13,801 --> 00:51:16,206
"That is so fucking wrong!
I can't believe you!
1187
00:51:16,273 --> 00:51:20,080
You fucking live to publicly
embarrass your family."
1188
00:51:20,147 --> 00:51:22,953
[ laughter ]
1189
00:51:23,020 --> 00:51:27,094
"What's wrong with you?
They took away your voice.
1190
00:51:27,161 --> 00:51:28,330
"Don't let them do that.
1191
00:51:28,397 --> 00:51:32,773
Don't let them take away
your voice!"
1192
00:51:32,839 --> 00:51:36,046
I didn't get it.
1193
00:51:36,112 --> 00:51:40,054
I was like, "But I'm a size 4."
1194
00:51:40,120 --> 00:51:45,064
[ laughter ]
1195
00:51:45,130 --> 00:51:51,409
All those years of too tall,
too loud, too Jewish, too gay‐‐
1196
00:51:51,476 --> 00:51:54,783
it took me so long to realize
I am angry.
1197
00:51:54,850 --> 00:51:56,386
‐ No one's funnier than us.
‐ No one!
1198
00:51:56,453 --> 00:51:58,858
‐ Kathy Griffin.
‐ Sarah Silverman.
1199
00:51:58,925 --> 00:51:59,693
BOTH: Fuck you!
1200
00:51:59,760 --> 00:52:01,029
But a woman can't be angry,
1201
00:52:01,096 --> 00:52:04,503
'cause if she's angry,
she's mentally ill.
1202
00:52:04,570 --> 00:52:07,108
She's hysterical.
She's a bitch.
1203
00:52:07,174 --> 00:52:09,412
Or diva or nag.
1204
00:52:09,479 --> 00:52:11,651
Difficult, bitchy,
hard to work with.
1205
00:52:11,717 --> 00:52:12,886
When women, like, go crazy,
1206
00:52:12,953 --> 00:52:14,523
it's because people chip away
at you,
1207
00:52:14,590 --> 00:52:18,297
and then you snap,
and it's like, see? Crazy.
1208
00:52:18,363 --> 00:52:19,934
If someone's crazy,
1209
00:52:20,000 --> 00:52:21,403
of course you don't have
to listen to them
1210
00:52:21,469 --> 00:52:23,407
or heed their warnings
or take them seriously.
1211
00:52:23,473 --> 00:52:24,810
You write 'em off.
1212
00:52:24,877 --> 00:52:27,616
Male comics are often
really, really celebrated
1213
00:52:27,683 --> 00:52:29,620
for their very famous anger.
1214
00:52:29,687 --> 00:52:32,224
You fucking bitch!
How do you live with yourself?!
1215
00:52:32,291 --> 00:52:34,630
You piece of shit!
1216
00:52:34,697 --> 00:52:36,433
Yeah, you‐‐
Yeah, you fucking cunt!
1217
00:52:36,500 --> 00:52:38,236
You fucking bitch!
1218
00:52:38,303 --> 00:52:40,909
That gives me carte blanche!
1219
00:52:44,048 --> 00:52:46,453
Shut up! I'll let go
when you shut up.
1220
00:52:46,520 --> 00:52:48,958
Girl, I'll shake this weave
out your hair.
1221
00:52:49,025 --> 00:52:53,835
I don't give a fuck.
Shut up! Shut the fuck up!
1222
00:52:53,901 --> 00:52:57,141
Talking about hitting women,
sweetheart.
1223
00:52:57,208 --> 00:52:59,913
And I think you just added
another reason.
1224
00:52:59,980 --> 00:53:02,919
We're not allowed to show that
we're angry, even though we are.
1225
00:53:02,986 --> 00:53:06,159
Women are filled with rage,
but we have to keep a smile
1226
00:53:06,226 --> 00:53:08,798
and not show it because
of wrinkles and likeability.
1227
00:53:08,865 --> 00:53:12,639
So we shove it down.
Shove it down.
1228
00:53:12,706 --> 00:53:15,845
But it comes out.
It finds a way like water.
1229
00:53:18,016 --> 00:53:21,222
It was always very hard
to talk about trauma in comedy
1230
00:53:21,289 --> 00:53:26,099
because audiences don't want
the dailyness of tragedy
1231
00:53:26,166 --> 00:53:29,105
to encroach upon
when they are laughing.
1232
00:53:29,172 --> 00:53:30,775
And I find it
really interesting that
1233
00:53:30,842 --> 00:53:34,482
this is becoming‐‐that‐‐that
kind of admission of trauma
1234
00:53:34,550 --> 00:53:38,156
is part of comedy's venue
these days.
1235
00:53:38,223 --> 00:53:41,062
Yeah, and nowadays,
it's become really a testament
1236
00:53:41,129 --> 00:53:45,204
to comedians' skill to use that
suffering in a way as, like,
1237
00:53:45,270 --> 00:53:48,443
almost like colors that
you would paint with, you know?
1238
00:53:48,511 --> 00:53:51,984
Like, to use all of that
darkness to, um,
1239
00:53:52,051 --> 00:53:54,489
I guess contrast
to the lightness.
1240
00:53:54,556 --> 00:54:05,645
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1241
00:54:05,712 --> 00:54:14,095
[ indistinct conversations,
laughter ]
1242
00:54:14,162 --> 00:54:15,598
Well...
1243
00:54:18,437 --> 00:54:21,109
‐ It's an 8‐minute.
‐ What are you gonna talk about?
1244
00:54:21,176 --> 00:54:23,046
How I was diagnosed
with breast cancer.
1245
00:54:23,113 --> 00:54:25,552
‐ What?
‐ Aw.
1246
00:54:25,618 --> 00:54:27,488
I don't remember anything
about this.
1247
00:54:27,556 --> 00:54:29,593
‐ Mwah.
‐ Yeah, but I'm gonna be fine.
1248
00:54:29,660 --> 00:54:31,530
But you're gonna talk about it
onstage?
1249
00:54:31,597 --> 00:54:33,133
You're gonna be fine.
1250
00:54:33,200 --> 00:54:35,872
That is so brave you can talk
about it onstage.
1251
00:54:35,939 --> 00:54:37,174
I love that. What'd you say?
To be‐‐
1252
00:54:37,241 --> 00:54:39,045
So brave! She gets to talk
about it onstage.
1253
00:54:39,112 --> 00:54:40,682
Most people who get
breast cancer
1254
00:54:40,749 --> 00:54:44,489
have to, like, live with it
in the torture inside.
1255
00:54:44,556 --> 00:54:46,827
‐ You get to...
‐ Marina...
1256
00:54:50,033 --> 00:54:52,506
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ I know. What?
1257
00:54:52,572 --> 00:54:54,510
‐ All right. Here we go.
‐ Have fun.
1258
00:54:54,576 --> 00:54:56,547
Let's see if‐‐
if it doesn't work‐‐
1259
00:54:56,614 --> 00:54:59,152
[ laughter ]
1260
00:54:59,218 --> 00:55:00,688
Oh, Judy.
1261
00:55:00,755 --> 00:55:03,661
What would I do without you?
1262
00:55:03,728 --> 00:55:05,832
Hard to do in an 8‐minute set,
though.
1263
00:55:05,899 --> 00:55:10,174
Like, "I have breast cancer,"
and I'm out.
1264
00:55:10,240 --> 00:55:11,610
‐ Bye.
‐ Bye.
1265
00:55:11,677 --> 00:55:13,614
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1266
00:55:20,562 --> 00:55:26,372
When I found out my diagnosis,
everything flashed before me,
1267
00:55:26,439 --> 00:55:28,143
and I thought about...
1268
00:55:28,210 --> 00:55:29,847
[ voice breaking ]
when I was in high school,
1269
00:55:29,913 --> 00:55:32,886
what I wanted to be,
1270
00:55:32,953 --> 00:55:35,892
and then I thought
about my career
1271
00:55:35,959 --> 00:55:40,502
and where it was
and where it wasn't.
1272
00:55:40,568 --> 00:55:41,637
and I thought
about all of things
1273
00:55:41,704 --> 00:55:44,610
that I wanted for my life.
1274
00:55:44,676 --> 00:55:48,651
By the time I got
to the comedy club,
1275
00:55:48,718 --> 00:55:51,256
tears were gone.
1276
00:55:51,322 --> 00:55:52,893
I was calm.
1277
00:55:52,959 --> 00:55:55,698
[ singsongy ] Marina Franklin!
1278
00:55:55,765 --> 00:55:57,301
Oh, yeah!
1279
00:55:57,368 --> 00:56:01,610
[ cheers and applause ]
1280
00:56:01,677 --> 00:56:03,146
Not getting a hug. That's okay.
1281
00:56:03,213 --> 00:56:05,217
These guys these days,
you know...
1282
00:56:05,284 --> 00:56:06,687
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ They‐‐They're so‐‐
1283
00:56:06,754 --> 00:56:07,756
It's all right.
It works for my act,
1284
00:56:07,823 --> 00:56:09,192
so that's fine.
‐ [ laughter ]
1285
00:56:09,258 --> 00:56:11,997
No, 'cause they're not
giving us hugs.
1286
00:56:12,064 --> 00:56:13,166
It's the Me Too Movement.
1287
00:56:13,233 --> 00:56:14,970
'Cause this is how
they're hugging.
1288
00:56:15,037 --> 00:56:16,139
They're hugging like...Well,
I didn't even get one from him.
1289
00:56:16,206 --> 00:56:17,676
[ laughter ]
1290
00:56:17,742 --> 00:56:19,479
You know,
and I'm hugging like that.
1291
00:56:19,546 --> 00:56:21,049
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ Oh, yeah, no,
1292
00:56:21,115 --> 00:56:23,621
I'll give you a good vag hug.
That's right.
1293
00:56:23,688 --> 00:56:29,332
'Cause I was with this brother,
and he came quick, and, um,
1294
00:56:29,398 --> 00:56:31,436
I was laying there,
and he was asleep,
1295
00:56:31,504 --> 00:56:35,645
and I started feeling myself,
and, uh, and I felt something.
1296
00:56:35,712 --> 00:56:37,181
And this is not the funny part,
actually.
1297
00:56:37,248 --> 00:56:39,987
I don't want you to accidentally
laugh in the unfunny part.
1298
00:56:40,053 --> 00:56:41,055
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ But I have... [ laughs ]
1299
00:56:41,122 --> 00:56:42,692
'Cause I‐‐This is new material.
1300
00:56:42,759 --> 00:56:47,802
But, uh, I had‐‐I had a lump,
and, uh, it was breast cancer.
1301
00:56:47,869 --> 00:56:50,207
But... [ laughs ]
You guys are like, "Oh."
1302
00:56:50,274 --> 00:56:52,244
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ "Where is she going?"
1303
00:56:52,311 --> 00:56:55,317
Uh, the thing is,
is I caught it early,
1304
00:56:55,384 --> 00:56:57,154
so I'm gonna be good, yeah.
Yeah, you can applaud that.
1305
00:56:57,221 --> 00:56:59,392
‐ You can. You can. Yes.
‐ [ cheers and applause ]
1306
00:56:59,458 --> 00:57:00,929
Caught it early.
1307
00:57:00,995 --> 00:57:02,766
[ cheers and applause
continues ]
1308
00:57:02,832 --> 00:57:07,241
'Cause of the bad lay
that I had, apparently.
1309
00:57:07,308 --> 00:57:09,145
If I hadn't had a bad lay...
[ laughs ]
1310
00:57:09,212 --> 00:57:11,449
I would never have caught it
early.
1311
00:57:11,517 --> 00:57:13,019
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ So you guys are actually‐‐
1312
00:57:13,086 --> 00:57:15,490
you don't realize it,
you're providing a service.
1313
00:57:15,558 --> 00:57:17,829
[ laughter ]
1314
00:57:17,896 --> 00:57:20,234
‐ So I guess come quick.
‐ [ laughter ]
1315
00:57:20,300 --> 00:57:23,975
Thank you.
I like that extra laugh.
1316
00:57:24,041 --> 00:57:26,914
Okay. You guys were really good
for me,
1317
00:57:26,981 --> 00:57:29,151
uh, trying this material out.
1318
00:57:29,218 --> 00:57:33,393
Um, I'll say, how do I get
out of cancer material?
1319
00:57:33,460 --> 00:57:34,863
[ laughter ]
1320
00:57:34,930 --> 00:57:37,034
It's not easy, I'm‐a tell you.
1321
00:57:37,101 --> 00:57:38,638
Okay, this is another new one.
Fertility.
1322
00:57:38,704 --> 00:57:43,179
I gotta do fertility stuff.
That's aggressive coming at men,
1323
00:57:43,246 --> 00:57:46,921
'cause I need sperm.
That's kinda creepy.
1324
00:57:46,987 --> 00:57:49,158
Just, "I need your sp‐‐
I don't even need you."
1325
00:57:49,225 --> 00:57:51,095
[ laughter ]
I was like, Louis C. K.
1326
00:57:51,162 --> 00:57:54,001
is actually useful right now.
1327
00:57:54,068 --> 00:57:56,674
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ It's like, "You know that..."
1328
00:57:56,740 --> 00:57:58,109
[ laughter ]
1329
00:57:58,176 --> 00:57:59,278
"You know that thing you do?
1330
00:57:59,345 --> 00:58:01,784
If you could do that into a cup,
please."
1331
00:58:01,850 --> 00:58:06,025
[ laughter ]
1332
00:58:06,092 --> 00:58:09,432
Hey, you guys were amazing.
Thank you so much.
1333
00:58:09,499 --> 00:58:13,574
[ cheers and applause ]
1334
00:58:13,641 --> 00:58:19,285
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1335
00:58:19,352 --> 00:58:21,356
[ exhales deeply ]
I did it.
1336
00:58:21,422 --> 00:58:23,126
I was scared.
I'm not gonna lie.
1337
00:58:23,193 --> 00:58:25,364
I was really scared to share it.
1338
00:58:25,430 --> 00:58:30,708
‐ It worked so good. My God.
‐ Weren't they crazy?
1339
00:58:30,775 --> 00:58:32,411
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1340
00:58:32,478 --> 00:58:34,716
It was so good for me,
1341
00:58:34,783 --> 00:58:37,689
and I could see that I was
actually reaching people.
1342
00:58:37,756 --> 00:58:43,534
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1343
00:58:43,601 --> 00:58:45,538
The things that we're talking
about as comics,
1344
00:58:45,605 --> 00:58:48,944
like, this is your experience
on this planet.
1345
00:58:49,011 --> 00:58:52,117
And comics are here to just
hold up that mirror
1346
00:58:52,184 --> 00:58:54,155
to be, like, "This is us."
1347
00:58:54,221 --> 00:58:57,061
I think it was George Carlin,
you know, who calls us,
1348
00:58:57,127 --> 00:58:58,497
comedians,
modern‐day philosophers.
1349
00:58:58,564 --> 00:59:00,935
We're also whistle‐blowers.
1350
00:59:01,002 --> 00:59:03,507
You're standing up for what
you believe is right,
1351
00:59:03,574 --> 00:59:04,943
and you're calling things out.
1352
00:59:05,010 --> 00:59:08,116
[ cheers and applause ]
1353
00:59:08,183 --> 00:59:09,385
I mean, it's my job
to stand up there alone
1354
00:59:09,452 --> 00:59:13,627
in the dark and tell you
where I see bullshit.
1355
00:59:13,694 --> 00:59:17,535
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1356
00:59:17,602 --> 00:59:18,971
So it should be more straight up
like that?
1357
00:59:19,038 --> 00:59:20,842
‐ No, it's gotta be center.
‐ No, more...
1358
00:59:20,908 --> 00:59:22,912
‐ There you go. Just like that.
‐ I got it.
1359
00:59:22,979 --> 00:59:25,050
It all started when
celebrity photographer
1360
00:59:25,117 --> 00:59:28,189
Tyler Shields released
this video of Griffin
1361
00:59:28,256 --> 00:59:31,864
slowly lifting up what resembles
the head of Donald Trump
1362
00:59:31,930 --> 00:59:33,534
for all to see.
1363
00:59:33,601 --> 00:59:37,609
After she, uh, was photographed
holding up Trump's head,
1364
00:59:37,676 --> 00:59:40,581
there was such a huge backlash.
1365
00:59:40,648 --> 00:59:44,790
When that photo when live
in March 30, 2017,
1366
00:59:44,856 --> 00:59:46,225
I lost everything
within 12 hours.
1367
00:59:46,292 --> 00:59:48,129
I was in the middle
of a 50‐city tour,
1368
00:59:48,196 --> 00:59:50,067
and the last 25 cities
of the tour
1369
00:59:50,133 --> 00:59:51,837
were all canceled.
1370
00:59:51,904 --> 00:59:53,841
A comedian is dealing
with the aftermath
1371
00:59:53,908 --> 00:59:56,613
of what she now describes
as a mistake.
1372
00:59:56,680 --> 00:59:59,185
I'm a comic. I crossed the line.
I moved the line,
1373
00:59:59,251 --> 01:00:02,091
and then I cross it.
I went way too far.
1374
01:00:02,157 --> 01:00:05,263
For the first time in history
that we are aware of,
1375
01:00:05,330 --> 01:00:06,834
the President
of the United States
1376
01:00:06,900 --> 01:00:12,344
and his family is personally
attempting to ruin a comedian.
1377
01:00:12,411 --> 01:00:16,018
It was all so much bullshit.
She got so railroaded.
1378
01:00:16,085 --> 01:00:17,454
You know, I'm sorry,
but Kathy Griffin‐‐
1379
01:00:17,522 --> 01:00:20,495
people‐‐men haven't liked her
for years.
1380
01:00:20,561 --> 01:00:25,270
Many male artists have created
far more disturbing imagery.
1381
01:00:25,337 --> 01:00:27,007
A Marilyn Manson music video
1382
01:00:27,074 --> 01:00:30,113
shows him beheading
a Trump figure.
1383
01:00:30,180 --> 01:00:32,484
The band Municipal Waste
has an image of Trump
1384
01:00:32,552 --> 01:00:35,323
with a bloody gunshot
to his head.
1385
01:00:35,390 --> 01:00:39,533
The band GWAR has had
violent images like this
1386
01:00:39,599 --> 01:00:42,304
for president after president
for years.
1387
01:00:42,371 --> 01:00:45,277
They're all just considered
bad boys.
1388
01:00:45,343 --> 01:00:46,880
They would never treat
a male comedian that way.
1389
01:00:46,947 --> 01:00:48,383
I've never seen that.
1390
01:00:48,450 --> 01:00:51,456
Even male comedians
who threaten gang rape
1391
01:00:51,523 --> 01:00:54,361
don't get that kind of shit.
[ laughs ]
1392
01:00:54,428 --> 01:00:58,002
I am a woman in
a very male‐dominated field.
1393
01:00:58,069 --> 01:00:59,940
And I think it's important
to have
1394
01:01:00,006 --> 01:01:01,977
comics that do
super clean comedy,
1395
01:01:02,044 --> 01:01:03,781
comics that do
political commentary,
1396
01:01:03,848 --> 01:01:05,852
prop comics, all of it.
1397
01:01:05,918 --> 01:01:06,987
You don't have to like me,
1398
01:01:07,054 --> 01:01:08,624
but you shouldn't silence
a comic.
1399
01:01:08,691 --> 01:01:10,862
Joan Rivers would have done
the same thing.
1400
01:01:10,928 --> 01:01:13,634
Kathy, Joan, just fearlessness‐‐
1401
01:01:13,701 --> 01:01:15,170
fearlessness in a way
that I don't have.
1402
01:01:15,237 --> 01:01:17,374
Like, that girl that was onstage
1403
01:01:17,441 --> 01:01:20,280
when Harvey Weinstein
was in the room‐‐
1404
01:01:20,347 --> 01:01:24,388
that was the type of thing
I watched, and I was like,
1405
01:01:24,455 --> 01:01:26,392
I don't know if I could have
done that.
1406
01:01:26,459 --> 01:01:28,263
Harvey Weinstein's trip
to a comedy show
1407
01:01:28,329 --> 01:01:32,137
ends in a Me Too confrontation
that's gone viral.
1408
01:01:32,204 --> 01:01:33,139
He's accused
of sexual misconduct
1409
01:01:33,206 --> 01:01:35,277
by more than 80 women.
1410
01:01:35,343 --> 01:01:37,080
Right before I got onstage,
I was asking
1411
01:01:37,147 --> 01:01:38,851
all the people around me,
1412
01:01:38,918 --> 01:01:40,253
"You know that's
Harvey Weinstein, right?
1413
01:01:40,320 --> 01:01:42,959
"Like, I need to say something.
I'm a comic, like, right?
1414
01:01:43,026 --> 01:01:44,830
I should say something"?
1415
01:01:44,896 --> 01:01:46,500
And a well‐dressed woman
1416
01:01:46,567 --> 01:01:49,472
drinking a martini at the bar
next to me went,
1417
01:01:49,539 --> 01:01:54,448
"No, don't say anything.
Are you kidding? Like, no."
1418
01:01:54,516 --> 01:01:57,488
And I was like, oh,
she's not gonna like this.
1419
01:01:57,555 --> 01:02:00,995
‐ [ applause ]
‐ I'm feeling a little tense.
1420
01:02:01,062 --> 01:02:02,932
‐ Anybody else? No?
‐ [ laughter ]
1421
01:02:02,999 --> 01:02:06,573
‐ I'm a comic.
‐ [ laughter ]
1422
01:02:06,640 --> 01:02:11,115
And it's our job to name, uh,
the elephant in the room.
1423
01:02:11,182 --> 01:02:13,086
Do we know what that is?
1424
01:02:13,152 --> 01:02:15,423
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1425
01:02:15,490 --> 01:02:18,898
I saw the show where
this great female comic
1426
01:02:18,964 --> 01:02:20,200
was, like, really, like,
calling out
1427
01:02:20,267 --> 01:02:21,670
the elephant in the room
1428
01:02:21,737 --> 01:02:23,574
with Harvey Weinstein
being in the room,
1429
01:02:23,641 --> 01:02:26,813
and I'm like, oh, my God,
that is really badass.
1430
01:02:26,880 --> 01:02:29,451
I didn't know that
we had to bring our own mace
1431
01:02:29,519 --> 01:02:32,625
and, uh, rape whistles
to Actor's Hour.
1432
01:02:32,692 --> 01:02:35,297
[ booing ]
1433
01:02:35,363 --> 01:02:37,735
Have them be booing you
and still stick to it?
1434
01:02:37,802 --> 01:02:39,940
I mean, it was one
of the coolest things
1435
01:02:40,006 --> 01:02:41,677
I've ever seen.
1436
01:02:41,743 --> 01:02:42,812
‐ Now‐‐
‐ Shut up!
1437
01:02:42,879 --> 01:02:43,981
Now‐‐
1438
01:02:44,048 --> 01:02:46,219
Someone said, "Shut up,"
1439
01:02:46,285 --> 01:02:48,423
and that's
the most triggering thing.
1440
01:02:48,489 --> 01:02:49,258
Oh, shut up?
1441
01:02:49,325 --> 01:02:53,233
Just felt like I kinda saw red.
1442
01:02:53,299 --> 01:02:55,738
That's the part
that is difficult in the room,
1443
01:02:55,805 --> 01:02:59,245
continuing to say,
"Mmm, you're booing me,
1444
01:02:59,311 --> 01:03:02,619
"but I'm gonna keep...
1445
01:03:02,685 --> 01:03:07,327
I'm gonna keep my composure
and say another funny thing."
1446
01:03:07,394 --> 01:03:10,768
This kills at, uh, group therapy
for rape survivors.
1447
01:03:10,835 --> 01:03:12,939
They love it. Yeah.
1448
01:03:13,006 --> 01:03:15,645
‐ Whoo, whoo! Yes!
‐ Yeah!
1449
01:03:15,711 --> 01:03:16,947
‐ Whoo!
‐ Tell us! Whoo!
1450
01:03:17,014 --> 01:03:20,353
I have been raped, surprisingly
by no one in this room,
1451
01:03:20,420 --> 01:03:25,096
but, um, I never got to confront
those guys, so...
1452
01:03:27,936 --> 01:03:29,071
Yes, girl!
1453
01:03:29,138 --> 01:03:33,413
‐ [ cheers and applause ]
‐ Um...
1454
01:03:33,479 --> 01:03:36,620
That is nothing less than an act
of civil disobedience.
1455
01:03:36,687 --> 01:03:40,561
So for anyone out there,
and including the women
1456
01:03:40,628 --> 01:03:44,168
that are saying, "Oh, couldn't
she have been more ladylike?
1457
01:03:44,234 --> 01:03:45,972
Couldn't she have said it
in a softer tone?"
1458
01:03:46,038 --> 01:03:48,911
I go, oh, my gosh, we're still
hearing that stuff.
1459
01:03:48,978 --> 01:03:50,548
‐ All right, thank you.
‐ [ cheers and applause ]
1460
01:03:50,615 --> 01:03:53,821
I wrote her and told her, like,
"You've changed the way
1461
01:03:53,887 --> 01:03:57,562
that I've thought
and behaved onstage,"
1462
01:03:57,629 --> 01:03:59,431
and she's someone who just
started in comedy.
1463
01:03:59,499 --> 01:04:02,337
That's how cool that is that,
like, someone who's
1464
01:04:02,404 --> 01:04:05,878
just starting out can, like,
make me feel so empowered.
1465
01:04:05,945 --> 01:04:09,986
The fact that these women can
get onstage and talk about rape,
1466
01:04:10,053 --> 01:04:14,896
that...that is‐‐
that's feminism.
1467
01:04:14,963 --> 01:04:18,469
Because you know what?
Women have been silent
1468
01:04:18,537 --> 01:04:22,845
about this for hundreds of‐‐
thousands of years.
1469
01:04:26,653 --> 01:04:29,491
I'm so grateful to this
new generation of women.
1470
01:04:29,559 --> 01:04:30,928
They came along
and they're like,
1471
01:04:30,995 --> 01:04:33,232
"Hey, have you been getting
sexually harassed like this
1472
01:04:33,299 --> 01:04:35,103
your whole lives?"
And we're like,
1473
01:04:35,170 --> 01:04:36,238
"Oh, yeah."
1474
01:04:36,305 --> 01:04:39,478
[ laughter ]
1475
01:04:39,546 --> 01:04:42,184
And they're like, "Yeah, you
wanna do something about that?"
1476
01:04:42,250 --> 01:04:45,658
And we're like..."Oh, yeah!"
1477
01:04:45,725 --> 01:04:49,131
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ "That's a very good idea."
1478
01:04:49,198 --> 01:04:51,469
‐ [ applause ]
‐ They're like, "Yeah, yeah."
1479
01:04:51,536 --> 01:04:54,909
We're like, oh,
we're so used to it, you know?
1480
01:04:54,976 --> 01:04:58,349
You're at work, and you're like,
"Ugh, I have to, like,
1481
01:04:58,416 --> 01:05:00,320
"make every guy think
that we also might fuck
1482
01:05:00,387 --> 01:05:01,923
and do a good job."
1483
01:05:01,990 --> 01:05:04,796
[ laughter ]
1484
01:05:04,863 --> 01:05:09,806
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1485
01:05:09,873 --> 01:05:15,016
What I do like is now I'm seeing
comics speak up.
1486
01:05:15,083 --> 01:05:19,491
I'm seeing a lot of badass girls
get into this field now.
1487
01:05:19,559 --> 01:05:23,567
I feel like they're equipped
more‐‐more than we were.
1488
01:05:23,634 --> 01:05:25,938
I do just wanna confess,
like, the fame grab
1489
01:05:26,005 --> 01:05:28,276
for a second, though.
Like, I wanna fully confess it.
1490
01:05:28,342 --> 01:05:31,382
Um, when I was getting raped
five years ago...
1491
01:05:31,449 --> 01:05:33,486
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ I remember thinking to myself,
1492
01:05:33,554 --> 01:05:36,459
"I can't wait!"
‐ [ laughter ]
1493
01:05:36,526 --> 01:05:40,968
"I can't wait to use this
to get ahead in comedy."
1494
01:05:41,035 --> 01:05:42,605
[ laughter ]
1495
01:05:42,672 --> 01:05:46,513
I think what people like
about my narrative right now
1496
01:05:46,580 --> 01:05:49,552
is that I'm like
David and Goliath, giant slayer.
1497
01:05:49,619 --> 01:05:54,596
This nobody little girl stood up
to the Big, Bad Wolf,
1498
01:05:54,662 --> 01:05:59,906
and once you yourself
stand up against power,
1499
01:05:59,973 --> 01:06:02,745
then the narrative changes.
1500
01:06:02,812 --> 01:06:12,832
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1501
01:06:12,899 --> 01:06:16,405
♪♪ White guys ♪♪
1502
01:06:16,472 --> 01:06:17,842
♪♪ White guys ♪♪
1503
01:06:17,909 --> 01:06:21,750
[ laughter ]
1504
01:06:21,817 --> 01:06:24,021
You guys have had
a pretty bad year.
1505
01:06:24,088 --> 01:06:25,858
[ laughter ]
1506
01:06:25,925 --> 01:06:26,927
[ cheers and applause ]
1507
01:06:26,993 --> 01:06:28,697
I blow my husband
whenever he wants,
1508
01:06:28,764 --> 01:06:30,433
so I do do that. I just‐‐
if he wants a blow job,
1509
01:06:30,501 --> 01:06:32,772
I just give it to him.
I don't know why.
1510
01:06:32,839 --> 01:06:36,112
I know I love propping up
the patriarchy, you know?
1511
01:06:36,178 --> 01:06:37,748
[ laughter ]
1512
01:06:37,815 --> 01:06:39,284
No, that's what he calls
his balls.
1513
01:06:39,351 --> 01:06:41,623
Maybe the Me Too Movement
didn't exactly
1514
01:06:41,690 --> 01:06:43,126
open more doors for women.
1515
01:06:43,192 --> 01:06:45,965
I mean, people were saying it's
gonna close doors for women.
1516
01:06:46,031 --> 01:06:48,804
You know, men aren't gonna
wanna work with women anymore,
1517
01:06:48,871 --> 01:06:50,941
and it's like,
oh, go fuck yourself, you know?
1518
01:06:51,008 --> 01:06:53,246
Really? We're supposed to put up
with that
1519
01:06:53,312 --> 01:06:55,450
so that everybody
feels comfortable?
1520
01:06:55,518 --> 01:06:58,924
But on the other hand,
it really‐‐I feel like
1521
01:06:58,991 --> 01:07:00,561
there was a definite shift,
1522
01:07:00,628 --> 01:07:03,667
and we stopped competing
with one another,
1523
01:07:03,734 --> 01:07:05,370
and we went, you know what?
This is it.
1524
01:07:05,436 --> 01:07:06,873
We're in it together.
1525
01:07:06,940 --> 01:07:10,981
Kathy, I'm in a car with some‐‐
with New York's finest.
1526
01:07:11,048 --> 01:07:12,317
[ laughter ]
1527
01:07:12,384 --> 01:07:14,388
Amy Schumer sent me
this really great video
1528
01:07:14,455 --> 01:07:16,125
the day the Trump photo
went live
1529
01:07:16,192 --> 01:07:17,829
and the walls were caving in,
1530
01:07:17,895 --> 01:07:20,166
and I get this, you know,
this video,
1531
01:07:20,233 --> 01:07:22,237
and she's
with three other comics,
1532
01:07:22,304 --> 01:07:24,007
and it was so supportive.
1533
01:07:24,074 --> 01:07:27,882
We just wanna say we fucking
love you and we're with you.
1534
01:07:27,949 --> 01:07:28,951
‐ We're with you. We're‐‐
‐ You're hysterical.
1535
01:07:29,017 --> 01:07:30,420
‐ You're hilarious.
‐ And you looked
1536
01:07:30,487 --> 01:07:32,057
fucking great in that picture,
by the way.
1537
01:07:32,123 --> 01:07:33,660
‐ Yeah.
‐ Gorgeous. All the way.
1538
01:07:33,727 --> 01:07:36,332
So hot, and we love you,
and you make us laugh so much.
1539
01:07:36,398 --> 01:07:37,869
We love you.
1540
01:07:37,935 --> 01:07:39,772
I felt very supported by it,
very supported,
1541
01:07:39,839 --> 01:07:41,710
especially at that time
where it was... [ scoffs ]
1542
01:07:41,776 --> 01:07:44,749
not exactly popular
to support me.
1543
01:07:45,751 --> 01:07:47,788
Like, people just started going
to each other's shows anyway,
1544
01:07:47,855 --> 01:07:49,592
just hanging out
with each other,
1545
01:07:49,659 --> 01:07:51,863
and it's really remarkable
when you do stuff like that,
1546
01:07:51,930 --> 01:07:56,706
how much it grows,
and not to sound too corny,
1547
01:07:56,773 --> 01:08:00,714
but that's how movements happen,
and that's what I feel like
1548
01:08:00,781 --> 01:08:02,552
is happening right now
with women in comedy.
1549
01:08:02,618 --> 01:08:07,093
It's like we're all‐‐
we're all fueling each other,
1550
01:08:07,160 --> 01:08:09,799
and it's becoming
something bigger, you know?
1551
01:08:09,866 --> 01:08:11,335
It's‐‐It's made me closer
to women
1552
01:08:11,402 --> 01:08:13,774
and feel better about being
a woman.
1553
01:08:13,840 --> 01:08:15,376
'Cause we've all been
in the same hotels.
1554
01:08:15,443 --> 01:08:17,882
You know, we've been,
like, depressed
1555
01:08:17,949 --> 01:08:19,586
at the same Howard Johnson's
in Toledo.
1556
01:08:19,652 --> 01:08:20,754
‐ Yeah.
‐ Yeah.
1557
01:08:20,821 --> 01:08:22,390
And you guys have been there.
1558
01:08:22,457 --> 01:08:25,163
I've learned to become
super supportive
1559
01:08:25,230 --> 01:08:28,102
of other female comics
because people did that for me.
1560
01:08:28,169 --> 01:08:30,674
Like, Amy Schumer.
Look at "Inside Amy Schumer."
1561
01:08:30,741 --> 01:08:32,912
There's so many female comics.
1562
01:08:32,979 --> 01:08:34,047
Now I know what
you're all thinking.
1563
01:08:34,114 --> 01:08:35,751
You wanna see the doctors
right away,
1564
01:08:35,818 --> 01:08:37,220
but you're just gonna have
to settle
1565
01:08:37,287 --> 01:08:40,961
for the unsung heroes up here
who do all the real work.
1566
01:08:41,028 --> 01:08:42,565
Doctors can be
very unapproachable.
1567
01:08:42,632 --> 01:08:44,936
It's like, we get it,
Your Grace.
1568
01:08:45,003 --> 01:08:47,007
‐ You're super busy.
‐ And we're not busy?
1569
01:08:47,073 --> 01:08:48,710
Thank you.
1570
01:08:48,777 --> 01:08:51,583
"Inside Amy Schumer"‐‐
Comedy Central used to say
1571
01:08:51,650 --> 01:08:54,288
our demographic is men,
and it's gotta be a man
1572
01:08:54,354 --> 01:08:59,064
of this age, so Amy changed
that, you know, dramatically.
1573
01:08:59,131 --> 01:09:01,736
[ cheers and applause ]
1574
01:09:01,803 --> 01:09:05,578
It really does take one person
in a position of power.
1575
01:09:05,644 --> 01:09:08,684
Once they anoint you
in this business,
1576
01:09:08,750 --> 01:09:10,854
it helps tremendously.
1577
01:09:10,921 --> 01:09:15,764
I had been coming up
against a bunch of walls
1578
01:09:15,831 --> 01:09:16,933
of people not knowing
what to do with me.
1579
01:09:17,000 --> 01:09:20,006
I was different.
I looked different,
1580
01:09:20,073 --> 01:09:24,247
and Chelsea Handler was
the first person who got it.
1581
01:09:24,314 --> 01:09:27,588
You have two lesbians already.
A third one would not kill you.
1582
01:09:27,655 --> 01:09:28,890
[ laughter ]
1583
01:09:28,957 --> 01:09:31,161
We'll be like
the lesbian Destiny's Child.
1584
01:09:31,228 --> 01:09:33,065
[ cheers and applause ]
1585
01:09:33,132 --> 01:09:35,871
Yeah! Yeah!
1586
01:09:35,938 --> 01:09:38,610
Tina Fey gave me some
really cool opportunities,
1587
01:09:38,677 --> 01:09:41,348
which led to getting
on "The Mindy Project."
1588
01:09:41,415 --> 01:09:43,119
They definitely all got
their arm back,
1589
01:09:43,185 --> 01:09:45,891
lifting people up.
1590
01:09:45,958 --> 01:09:49,031
I could hook you up if you wanna
be an Uber driver.
1591
01:09:49,097 --> 01:09:51,168
I'm good. I already have a job,
thank you very much.
1592
01:09:51,235 --> 01:09:53,707
I think women are becoming
a lot more powerful.
1593
01:09:53,774 --> 01:09:55,811
I also think it's gonna take
a long time.
1594
01:09:55,878 --> 01:09:58,884
But I've seen that the more
and more that we come together,
1595
01:09:58,950 --> 01:10:00,888
the more work
everyone's getting,
1596
01:10:00,955 --> 01:10:03,961
and the more money
everyone's making.
1597
01:10:04,829 --> 01:10:06,098
You have a new special out.
1598
01:10:06,165 --> 01:10:08,269
Yeah, I have a special
called "Bangin',"
1599
01:10:08,336 --> 01:10:09,906
and I'm really proud of it.
1600
01:10:09,973 --> 01:10:11,776
I've been doing this forever,
and now I'm like,
1601
01:10:11,843 --> 01:10:14,448
graduating from clubs
to, like, actual theaters.
1602
01:10:14,515 --> 01:10:15,684
The other thing
people might know you from
1603
01:10:15,751 --> 01:10:17,087
is how good you are at roasts.
1604
01:10:17,153 --> 01:10:19,191
I just did‐‐Yeah, I did
the "Roast of Alec Baldwin."
1605
01:10:19,257 --> 01:10:20,493
I've done
the "Roast of Bruce Willis,"
1606
01:10:20,561 --> 01:10:21,863
and I did
the "Roast of Rob Lowe."
1607
01:10:21,930 --> 01:10:24,201
I feel like it's my thing now.
1608
01:10:24,267 --> 01:10:25,904
You are fucking funny.
1609
01:10:25,971 --> 01:10:28,242
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1610
01:10:28,309 --> 01:10:30,380
There's so many types of women
1611
01:10:30,446 --> 01:10:32,283
doing so many types
of comedy now.
1612
01:10:32,350 --> 01:10:35,256
And there's more of an appetite.
1613
01:10:35,323 --> 01:10:36,993
I hope that when women
see me on the stage
1614
01:10:37,060 --> 01:10:40,366
they can go,
"Wow. I think I can, too."
1615
01:10:40,433 --> 01:10:42,772
Our new co‐host
Sherri Shepherd!
1616
01:10:42,838 --> 01:10:44,374
‐ [ cheers and applause ]
‐ Fist bump. Put it in.
1617
01:10:44,441 --> 01:10:47,648
But I wanna‐‐
I wanna see more women.
1618
01:10:47,715 --> 01:10:50,587
I want to see a woman
in a burqa get onstage
1619
01:10:50,654 --> 01:10:52,925
and tell her truth.
1620
01:10:52,992 --> 01:10:54,862
Like, I followed, uh,
a white comedian
1621
01:10:54,929 --> 01:10:58,837
talking about horses
the other day.
1622
01:10:58,904 --> 01:11:01,776
No, it was great material.
It was funny shit.
1623
01:11:01,843 --> 01:11:04,181
It was‐‐It was great material
about horses.
1624
01:11:04,247 --> 01:11:08,189
I was so jealous.
'Cause I knew. I was like,
1625
01:11:08,255 --> 01:11:10,561
I‐I know I can't get away
with that.
1626
01:11:10,627 --> 01:11:11,896
[ laughter ]
1627
01:11:11,963 --> 01:11:14,569
Like, if I was up here
talking about horses
1628
01:11:14,635 --> 01:11:16,840
for, like, an hour,
you guys would be like,
1629
01:11:16,906 --> 01:11:18,510
"This bitch know
what's going on?"
1630
01:11:18,577 --> 01:11:20,246
[ laughter ]
1631
01:11:20,313 --> 01:11:23,520
Do you feel like there's been
a blossoming of voices,
1632
01:11:23,587 --> 01:11:25,724
of women and women of color?
1633
01:11:25,791 --> 01:11:28,262
[ exhales deeply ]
1634
01:11:28,329 --> 01:11:30,868
Mm.
1635
01:11:30,934 --> 01:11:33,673
I think it's definitely going
in the right direction
1636
01:11:33,740 --> 01:11:35,844
for comedy for Black women.
1637
01:11:35,911 --> 01:11:39,050
I think they are getting
a lot more attention now.
1638
01:11:39,117 --> 01:11:42,525
But I think there are still
some roadblocks.
1639
01:11:42,591 --> 01:11:51,442
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1640
01:11:51,509 --> 01:11:55,016
I wanna see a female comic
get a deal at Netflix
1641
01:11:55,083 --> 01:11:58,322
that's a $50 million deal
like all of the other men.
1642
01:11:58,389 --> 01:12:00,694
I don't know any woman
that has done that.
1643
01:12:00,761 --> 01:12:09,612
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1644
01:12:09,679 --> 01:12:11,448
I probably earned
about $75 million
1645
01:12:11,516 --> 01:12:13,653
over the course of my career.
1646
01:12:13,720 --> 01:12:15,156
Believe it or not,
it's still for real, like,
1647
01:12:15,223 --> 01:12:18,497
a tenth of what my male
counterparts have earned.
1648
01:12:18,563 --> 01:12:21,503
Like, I'm not even gonna‐‐
I have to be honest about that.
1649
01:12:21,569 --> 01:12:23,339
I brought a death threat
for you.
1650
01:12:23,405 --> 01:12:25,677
"Go to hell, Kathy." And then
this is what I want you to know
1651
01:12:25,744 --> 01:12:27,313
about the Trumpers,
like, how random they are.
1652
01:12:27,380 --> 01:12:30,253
"You are no different
than Bill Cosby."
1653
01:12:30,319 --> 01:12:40,406
[ laughter ]
1654
01:12:40,473 --> 01:12:42,511
I can think of one way, but...
1655
01:12:42,578 --> 01:12:43,780
[ laughter ]
1656
01:12:43,847 --> 01:12:45,551
We still have a lot of work
to do.
1657
01:12:45,617 --> 01:12:48,924
As much as there's progress,
if you notice the progress,
1658
01:12:48,990 --> 01:12:51,629
it's not really a trajectory
for all women.
1659
01:12:51,696 --> 01:12:54,669
It's kind of like we're still
in a period of fits and starts.
1660
01:12:54,735 --> 01:12:56,539
[ applause ]
1661
01:12:56,606 --> 01:12:59,211
It's very rare and unusual
1662
01:12:59,277 --> 01:13:03,787
to see a female comic
perform pregnant
1663
01:13:03,854 --> 01:13:08,362
because female comics
don't get pregnant.
1664
01:13:08,429 --> 01:13:10,032
[ laughter ]
1665
01:13:10,099 --> 01:13:12,771
Once they do get pregnant,
they generally disappear.
1666
01:13:12,838 --> 01:13:14,976
That's not the case
with male comics.
1667
01:13:15,042 --> 01:13:17,715
Once they have a baby,
they'll get up onstage
1668
01:13:17,781 --> 01:13:20,086
a week afterwards,
and they'll be like,
1669
01:13:20,152 --> 01:13:22,758
"Guys, I just had
this fucking baby.
1670
01:13:22,825 --> 01:13:24,996
"That baby's
a little piece of shit.
1671
01:13:25,062 --> 01:13:28,002
"It's so annoying and boring,"
and all these other shitty dads
1672
01:13:28,068 --> 01:13:32,410
in the audience are like,
"That's hilarious. I identify,"
1673
01:13:32,477 --> 01:13:35,383
and their fame just swells,
because they become
1674
01:13:35,449 --> 01:13:39,057
this relatable family funny man
all of a sudden.
1675
01:13:39,124 --> 01:13:42,498
Meanwhile, the mom is at home,
chapping her nipples,
1676
01:13:42,565 --> 01:13:44,034
feeding the fucking baby,
1677
01:13:44,100 --> 01:13:47,841
and wearing a frozen diaper
'cause her pussy needs to heal
1678
01:13:47,908 --> 01:13:51,549
from the baby's head
shredding it up. She's busy.
1679
01:13:51,616 --> 01:13:52,918
[ laughter ]
1680
01:13:57,126 --> 01:14:00,567
‐ Okay. Oh, oh, oh, oh.
‐ [ baby crying ]
1681
01:14:00,634 --> 01:14:01,970
‐ Here you go.
‐ [ baby fusses ]
1682
01:14:02,036 --> 01:14:03,974
She's one month old.
1683
01:14:04,040 --> 01:14:05,409
Be right back.
Just wanted you to meet her.
1684
01:14:05,476 --> 01:14:08,583
I mean, I'm scared about how
I'm gonna juggle
1685
01:14:08,650 --> 01:14:10,554
being a mother
and doing stand‐up,
1686
01:14:10,621 --> 01:14:13,058
and I'm sure I'll fuck up a lot.
1687
01:14:13,125 --> 01:14:16,398
Uh, I know it's been
helpful to me
1688
01:14:16,465 --> 01:14:19,739
to listen to other comics
talk about being a mom.
1689
01:14:19,805 --> 01:14:22,410
I‐I just relate more when
I can hear other female comics
1690
01:14:22,477 --> 01:14:24,347
talk about juggling here.
1691
01:14:26,819 --> 01:14:28,523
So, no, I have a daughter.
She's my world.
1692
01:14:28,590 --> 01:14:31,896
She's my everything. She's like
5 or 12 or something like that,
1693
01:14:31,963 --> 01:14:33,299
and, um...
‐ [ laughter ]
1694
01:14:33,365 --> 01:14:35,102
I did take my daughter
on the road with me
1695
01:14:35,169 --> 01:14:39,144
when I‐‐when she was little,
when she could fly for free.
1696
01:14:39,210 --> 01:14:40,479
I mean, literally,
she was, like, 6 months old
1697
01:14:40,547 --> 01:14:43,152
when I started taking her,
and I'd just hand her over
1698
01:14:43,218 --> 01:14:44,889
to somebody in the green room.
1699
01:14:44,956 --> 01:14:46,224
The opening act
in the green room,
1700
01:14:46,291 --> 01:14:48,062
and I say, "Read her a book
until I get offstage,"
1701
01:14:48,128 --> 01:14:50,032
and they were so nervous.
1702
01:14:50,099 --> 01:14:52,136
You're gonna save
your chopsticks?
1703
01:14:52,203 --> 01:14:53,405
‐ This one or this one?
‐ When I was a kid,
1704
01:14:53,472 --> 01:14:56,011
we used to shave‐‐
save our chopsticks.
1705
01:14:56,078 --> 01:14:57,848
‐ Oh, Daddy forgot his‐‐
‐ We have chopsticks at home.
1706
01:14:57,915 --> 01:14:59,652
I know, but I'm just...
1707
01:14:59,719 --> 01:15:01,455
We were poor.
1708
01:15:01,522 --> 01:15:03,593
So are we.
1709
01:15:03,660 --> 01:15:13,379
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1710
01:15:13,445 --> 01:15:15,349
Hello!
1711
01:15:15,416 --> 01:15:17,120
‐ How you doing?
‐ Okay.
1712
01:15:17,186 --> 01:15:19,357
Good. Do you wanna play
a little bit of cards
1713
01:15:19,424 --> 01:15:20,827
while these people are here?
‐ If you want.
1714
01:15:20,894 --> 01:15:22,063
Okay.
1715
01:15:22,130 --> 01:15:24,367
I started working on
all the traumas
1716
01:15:24,434 --> 01:15:29,712
that I've had in my life,
and it's been fucking hard.
1717
01:15:29,779 --> 01:15:33,820
But I think this is good for me,
'cause it's making me face
1718
01:15:33,887 --> 01:15:38,228
literally all the stuff I've
never faced in my whole life.
1719
01:15:38,295 --> 01:15:39,464
I decided to retire
from stand‐up
1720
01:15:39,532 --> 01:15:41,234
about two, three years ago.
1721
01:15:41,301 --> 01:15:44,875
I wanna do something
that has a clear message
1722
01:15:44,942 --> 01:15:46,478
to make people feel better
about themselves.
1723
01:15:46,546 --> 01:15:50,152
Lisa quit. Lisa Lampanelli quit,
1724
01:15:50,219 --> 01:15:52,056
and I fucking love
that she quit.
1725
01:15:52,123 --> 01:15:53,693
And now she does self‐help.
1726
01:15:53,760 --> 01:15:55,329
I do not want
any transgender kid,
1727
01:15:55,396 --> 01:15:57,400
any gay kid,
any African American person,
1728
01:15:57,467 --> 01:15:59,872
to feel like the jokes are real,
so I said,
1729
01:15:59,939 --> 01:16:01,375
you know what? It's all gone.
‐ Yep.
1730
01:16:01,441 --> 01:16:02,978
I'm gonna
send a message of love
1731
01:16:03,045 --> 01:16:05,416
in a funny way, and that's, uh,
how it's gonna be.
1732
01:16:05,483 --> 01:16:07,655
She told me she's never
been happier,
1733
01:16:07,721 --> 01:16:10,259
and I was like, "God, someday,
I'm right behind you."
1734
01:16:10,326 --> 01:16:12,363
I wanna go do self‐help
because I love‐‐
1735
01:16:12,430 --> 01:16:15,136
that's what my act
is turning into.
1736
01:16:15,202 --> 01:16:17,073
That's the fucked up thing
about being a woman,
1737
01:16:17,140 --> 01:16:19,010
is that I did
the "Roast of Alec Baldwin,"
1738
01:16:19,077 --> 01:16:20,479
and everyone called me old,
and the thing is,
1739
01:16:20,547 --> 01:16:23,620
these men are twice my age
calling me old.
1740
01:16:23,687 --> 01:16:24,855
But to them, I truly am old.
1741
01:16:24,922 --> 01:16:27,260
I'm literally older
than all of their wives,
1742
01:16:27,326 --> 01:16:28,530
so, like, they're not wrong.
‐ [ laughter ]
1743
01:16:28,596 --> 01:16:32,103
I wanna, like, make other women
feel less alone.
1744
01:16:32,170 --> 01:16:33,305
That's why I talk about sex
all the time.
1745
01:16:33,372 --> 01:16:36,178
If you would have asked me,
like, a year ago,
1746
01:16:36,244 --> 01:16:38,883
"Nikki, will you ever eat ass
in your life?"
1747
01:16:38,950 --> 01:16:40,520
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ I would've been like,
1748
01:16:40,587 --> 01:16:41,856
"Yeah, I did two years ago,"
1749
01:16:41,923 --> 01:16:44,127
but if you would've asked me
four years ago,
1750
01:16:44,194 --> 01:16:45,964
like, I would've been like,
never.
1751
01:16:46,031 --> 01:16:47,601
My whole life,
I'll go without eating ass.
1752
01:16:47,668 --> 01:16:49,839
But one time I got horny enough
that I was just, like,
1753
01:16:49,905 --> 01:16:53,011
it was right there by my nose,
and I was like, I'm going in.
1754
01:16:53,078 --> 01:16:55,517
And I went in,
and I've only done it once,
1755
01:16:55,584 --> 01:16:57,855
and I haven't done it since,
but because I've eaten ass,
1756
01:16:57,921 --> 01:17:01,228
I know I am a woman
who can do anything.
1757
01:17:01,294 --> 01:17:05,202
‐ Like, I can do anything...
‐ [ cheers and applause ]
1758
01:17:05,269 --> 01:17:07,407
...except be president
'cause I'm a woman.
1759
01:17:07,473 --> 01:17:09,277
[ applause ]
1760
01:17:09,344 --> 01:17:11,415
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1761
01:17:17,126 --> 01:17:19,230
Whatever this life has in store,
whether it's kids
1762
01:17:19,297 --> 01:17:21,936
or having a movie career
or something bad happens,
1763
01:17:22,003 --> 01:17:25,309
there's always comedy
to be mined from that,
1764
01:17:25,376 --> 01:17:27,981
and that's why I love
stand‐up comedy.
1765
01:17:28,048 --> 01:17:30,252
[ nasally voice ] Amazing.
1766
01:17:30,319 --> 01:17:33,258
I'm offering up myself
in an effort to find myself,
1767
01:17:33,325 --> 01:17:35,964
hoping that in doing so,
you will also find yourself.
1768
01:17:36,031 --> 01:17:38,035
[ cheering ]
1769
01:17:38,102 --> 01:17:39,505
Stand‐up helped me immensely.
1770
01:17:39,572 --> 01:17:42,343
Please laugh at all my jokes.
I have a heart murmur.
1771
01:17:42,410 --> 01:17:45,517
Just to write a joke
and share it with somebody,
1772
01:17:45,584 --> 01:17:49,592
that's really just opened me up
as a person.
1773
01:17:49,658 --> 01:17:50,927
I believe in Jesus.
1774
01:17:50,994 --> 01:17:53,600
Um, just kidding.
I don't, I don't. Um...
1775
01:17:53,666 --> 01:17:56,873
I mean, I do, like, sometimes,
like,
1776
01:17:56,939 --> 01:17:58,710
when there's turbulence,
oh, my God.
1777
01:17:58,777 --> 01:18:00,146
[ laughter ]
1778
01:18:00,212 --> 01:18:01,682
I do feel success.
1779
01:18:01,749 --> 01:18:04,922
I do feel like things
are really happening.
1780
01:18:04,989 --> 01:18:07,795
But I don't think that I will
ever get that hole filled,
1781
01:18:07,861 --> 01:18:09,397
and I think that's a good thing
1782
01:18:09,464 --> 01:18:11,636
because it'll make me
keep doing stand‐up.
1783
01:18:11,702 --> 01:18:14,975
Like, once you're content
and happy, then what?
1784
01:18:15,042 --> 01:18:16,512
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1785
01:18:16,579 --> 01:18:20,352
I'm so glad that I've been
talking about breast cancer.
1786
01:18:20,419 --> 01:18:22,356
And I started talking about it
on my podcast.
1787
01:18:22,423 --> 01:18:24,862
And so I would get
these emails from women.
1788
01:18:24,929 --> 01:18:26,599
They were like,
"After your podcast,
1789
01:18:26,666 --> 01:18:29,337
"I'm like, driving
to get a mammogram.
1790
01:18:29,404 --> 01:18:31,742
I'm going now.
Me and my mom are going."
1791
01:18:31,809 --> 01:18:35,349
And I was like, okay,
this is why you do this.
1792
01:18:35,416 --> 01:18:38,690
That's me as an ice cream.
[ laughs ]
1793
01:18:38,756 --> 01:18:42,263
When I discovered who I was
and found my place in L. A.,
1794
01:18:42,330 --> 01:18:44,300
found comedy, I found myself.
1795
01:18:44,367 --> 01:18:47,574
Even if you don't like
gay people,
1796
01:18:47,641 --> 01:18:51,147
maybe I'll make you laugh,
and if that‐‐if that makes you
1797
01:18:51,214 --> 01:18:56,024
feel less hate
towards gay people, then great.
1798
01:18:56,091 --> 01:18:59,030
I'm doing something right.
1799
01:18:59,097 --> 01:19:01,334
I finally get the courage
to tell her.
1800
01:19:01,401 --> 01:19:05,376
I'm like, "Mom, I'm gay,"
and her face just drops.
1801
01:19:05,442 --> 01:19:08,583
She becomes silent.
She looks stern.
1802
01:19:08,650 --> 01:19:10,319
I don't know
what she's thinking,
1803
01:19:10,386 --> 01:19:12,323
and this goes on
for what feels like an eternity.
1804
01:19:12,390 --> 01:19:13,626
I'm like, oh, my God.
What's happening?
1805
01:19:13,693 --> 01:19:17,099
Like, is this the end
of our relationship?
1806
01:19:17,166 --> 01:19:20,072
Does she hate me?
And finally, my mom gets up,
1807
01:19:20,139 --> 01:19:22,210
very sternly,
and she grabs her purse.
1808
01:19:22,276 --> 01:19:26,017
She goes, "Let's go!
We're going to Hooters,
1809
01:19:26,084 --> 01:19:28,488
and we're gonna tell 'em
it's your birthday."
1810
01:19:28,556 --> 01:19:30,594
‐ [ laughter ]
‐ And I was like, yes!
1811
01:19:30,660 --> 01:19:32,531
[ cheers and applause ]
1812
01:19:32,598 --> 01:19:35,737
[ laughter ]
1813
01:19:35,804 --> 01:19:40,780
I think that we changed
the landscape of what is comedy,
1814
01:19:40,847 --> 01:19:42,450
and I really appreciate that.
1815
01:19:42,517 --> 01:19:43,485
‐ [ cheers and applause ]
‐ I am not gonna die
1816
01:19:43,553 --> 01:19:45,790
because I failed
as someone else.
1817
01:19:45,857 --> 01:19:51,134
I'm gonna succeed as myself,
and I'm gonna stay here
1818
01:19:51,201 --> 01:19:54,440
and rock the mic
until the next Korean American
1819
01:19:54,508 --> 01:19:58,448
fag hag, shit starter,
girl comic, trash talker
1820
01:19:58,516 --> 01:20:01,756
comes up and takes my place!
1821
01:20:01,822 --> 01:20:10,707
[ loud cheers and applause ]
1822
01:20:10,774 --> 01:20:27,306
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1823
01:20:27,373 --> 01:20:31,649
I'm producing this show called
"Locally Grown Comedy."
1824
01:20:31,716 --> 01:20:37,026
It's a grass roots community
that I've created.
1825
01:20:37,093 --> 01:20:38,529
So there's food in there.
1826
01:20:38,596 --> 01:20:41,535
I want my comedians
to feel very cared for.
1827
01:20:41,602 --> 01:20:44,307
‐ Don't fuck it up.
‐ [ laughs ]
1828
01:20:44,374 --> 01:20:45,810
I've written to each comedian
to thank them
1829
01:20:45,877 --> 01:20:50,219
for doing my show and telling
them how awesome they are
1830
01:20:50,286 --> 01:20:53,258
and how much I appreciate them.
1831
01:20:53,325 --> 01:20:55,764
'Cause that's what I would
wanna hear.
1832
01:20:55,830 --> 01:20:59,772
I'm excited about finding
female comics for my show.
1833
01:20:59,838 --> 01:21:02,109
And one time I had
all females on the show,
1834
01:21:02,176 --> 01:21:03,613
and I didn't say anything
about it.
1835
01:21:03,680 --> 01:21:07,219
Like, I didn't say,
"This is a female comedy show."
1836
01:21:07,286 --> 01:21:08,723
It just was.
1837
01:21:08,790 --> 01:21:11,829
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1838
01:21:11,896 --> 01:21:15,302
We're not just‐‐
it's not shallow laughter.
1839
01:21:15,369 --> 01:21:17,774
It's not jokes
just for the sake of jokes.
1840
01:21:17,841 --> 01:21:20,847
It's about a connection.
It's about sharing a story,
1841
01:21:20,914 --> 01:21:23,185
and that's
a very spiritual thing for me.
1842
01:21:23,251 --> 01:21:25,055
It's like, it is a religion.
1843
01:21:25,122 --> 01:21:27,360
I love the fact that you guys
are laughing at this.
1844
01:21:27,426 --> 01:21:29,765
‐ It's important.
‐ [ laughter ]
1845
01:21:29,832 --> 01:21:31,167
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1846
01:21:31,234 --> 01:21:33,973
This is an occupation where
you get to really find yourself
1847
01:21:34,040 --> 01:21:35,677
and you get to get strong.
1848
01:21:35,744 --> 01:21:37,581
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1849
01:21:37,647 --> 01:21:39,618
You get on that stage,
and you go,
1850
01:21:39,685 --> 01:21:44,561
"I can say something.
I can change opinions."
1851
01:21:44,628 --> 01:21:47,901
I think that's the power
of comedy.
1852
01:21:47,968 --> 01:21:50,740
Kids would go with their parents
to see my show
1853
01:21:50,807 --> 01:21:53,813
and then come out to their
parents afterwards, you know?
1854
01:21:53,880 --> 01:21:55,984
And that to me was
the greatest gift.
1855
01:21:56,051 --> 01:21:57,587
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1856
01:21:57,654 --> 01:21:59,390
Lot of long‐hand written ones.
1857
01:21:59,457 --> 01:22:02,597
Like, one time someone told me
that I'm the only person
1858
01:22:02,664 --> 01:22:04,501
that they've told
that they're trans.
1859
01:22:04,568 --> 01:22:08,609
You know, and they send me
pictures of their animals.
1860
01:22:08,676 --> 01:22:10,212
You know, people, like,
pour their hearts out into 'em.
1861
01:22:10,279 --> 01:22:13,051
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1862
01:22:13,118 --> 01:22:15,557
We're stalking you
while you're doing this, too.
1863
01:22:15,623 --> 01:22:18,763
‐ But you're so awesome.
‐ We fucking love you. Like‐‐
1864
01:22:18,830 --> 01:22:22,069
What I love about going
on the road and around the world
1865
01:22:22,136 --> 01:22:25,510
is seeing how my very human
observations apply to a person
1866
01:22:25,577 --> 01:22:27,179
that looks nothing like me
from a place I've never been to,
1867
01:22:27,246 --> 01:22:31,221
and it is
the coolest thing ever.
1868
01:22:31,287 --> 01:22:33,559
[ cheers and applause ]
1869
01:22:33,626 --> 01:22:36,599
At its core, we all want love.
We all wanna feel seen.
1870
01:22:36,665 --> 01:22:38,268
We all wanna feel acknowledged.
1871
01:22:38,335 --> 01:22:39,571
Nobody wants to feel bad
about themselves.
1872
01:22:39,638 --> 01:22:42,844
Everybody wants to be heard.
1873
01:22:42,911 --> 01:22:44,347
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1874
01:22:44,414 --> 01:22:46,852
If you don't stand up,
you get run over.
1875
01:22:46,919 --> 01:22:48,623
[ applause ]
1876
01:22:48,689 --> 01:22:50,359
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1877
01:22:50,426 --> 01:22:54,367
Hopefully, women in power
become so ubiquitous
1878
01:22:54,434 --> 01:22:56,237
that we don't have to talk
about it anymore.
1879
01:22:56,304 --> 01:22:59,177
[ cheering ]
1880
01:22:59,243 --> 01:23:02,383
I always tell women,
do self‐talk.
1881
01:23:02,450 --> 01:23:04,287
It's your time now.
Make a difference.
1882
01:23:04,353 --> 01:23:06,291
You're gonna change the world.
1883
01:23:06,357 --> 01:23:08,161
And don't sleep
with the other comics.
1884
01:23:08,228 --> 01:23:10,700
That's one thing. Don't‐‐Do not
sleep with the other comics.
1885
01:23:10,767 --> 01:23:13,917
It's just...
[ inhales sharply ] no good.
1886
01:23:16,244 --> 01:23:18,950
[ K. Flay's "I Like Myself
(Most of the Time)" playing ]
1887
01:23:19,016 --> 01:23:22,389
[ cheers and applause ]
1888
01:23:22,456 --> 01:23:24,762
Thank you tonight.
I love you. Mwah!
1889
01:23:24,828 --> 01:23:26,532
[ cheers and applause ]
1890
01:23:26,599 --> 01:23:28,870
♪♪ Everybody wants to be
the girl ♪♪
1891
01:23:28,936 --> 01:23:30,974
Good night!
Thank you for coming!
1892
01:23:31,040 --> 01:23:34,915
♪♪ Everybody wants to be
extraordinarily beautiful ♪♪
1893
01:23:34,982 --> 01:23:36,417
Thank you.
1894
01:23:36,484 --> 01:23:38,188
♪♪ Everybody wants to rule
the world ♪♪
1895
01:23:38,255 --> 01:23:41,595
♪♪ Or the room, at least,
and assume that they'll be ♪♪
1896
01:23:41,662 --> 01:23:44,300
♪♪ The one
with a crowded funeral ♪♪
1897
01:23:44,367 --> 01:23:45,904
[ laughter ]
1898
01:23:45,970 --> 01:23:48,275
♪♪ Everybody wants to have
the time ♪♪
1899
01:23:48,341 --> 01:23:49,377
Thank you very much. Bye‐bye.
1900
01:23:49,443 --> 01:23:50,880
Thank you and good night.
1901
01:23:50,947 --> 01:23:52,249
♪♪ Everybody wants to count
their calories ♪♪
1902
01:23:52,316 --> 01:23:54,453
Hey, my name's Adele Givens.
1903
01:23:54,521 --> 01:23:55,857
Thanks so much.
1904
01:23:55,924 --> 01:23:57,727
♪♪ Baby,
my job is just to rhyme ♪♪
1905
01:23:57,794 --> 01:24:00,098
‐ ♪♪ And I'm fine with that ♪♪
‐ God bless you.
1906
01:24:00,165 --> 01:24:02,470
♪♪ I'll concern myself with all
of the lives I might've had ♪♪
1907
01:24:02,537 --> 01:24:04,140
You freakin' rock!
1908
01:24:04,207 --> 01:24:05,342
Thank you guys so much!
1909
01:24:05,409 --> 01:24:06,979
Thank you very much.
1910
01:24:07,046 --> 01:24:08,215
Thank you!
1911
01:24:08,281 --> 01:24:09,651
Good night, everybody!
1912
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‐ Thank you.
‐ Thank you.
1913
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Thank you.
1914
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‐ Thank you so much.
‐ Thank you, guys.
1915
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♪♪ You only got one shot,
let her rip ♪♪
1916
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‐ ♪♪ Take a dip, have a smoke ♪♪
‐ Good night.
1917
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Thank you.
1918
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♪♪ Try to laugh at the jokes ♪♪
1919
01:24:23,044 --> 01:24:27,286
♪♪ Ha! I like myself
most of the time ♪♪
1920
01:24:27,353 --> 01:24:28,723
♪♪ Is that a crime? ♪♪
1921
01:24:28,789 --> 01:24:31,929
♪♪ Is that a crime? ♪♪
1922
01:24:31,996 --> 01:24:33,499
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1923
01:24:33,566 --> 01:24:36,539
♪♪ I like myself
most of the time ♪♪
1924
01:24:36,605 --> 01:24:39,545
♪♪ Is that a crime? ♪♪
1925
01:24:39,611 --> 01:24:41,849
♪♪ Is that a crime? ♪♪
1926
01:24:41,916 --> 01:24:43,185
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1927
01:24:43,251 --> 01:24:47,326
♪♪ Even planet Earth
took seven days ♪♪
1928
01:24:47,393 --> 01:24:48,963
♪♪ Even if it looks real ♪♪
1929
01:24:49,030 --> 01:24:53,038
♪♪ You can fake it
in a million different ways ♪♪
1930
01:24:53,104 --> 01:24:55,242
♪♪ Nobody chose
to have their face ♪♪
1931
01:24:55,309 --> 01:24:56,979
♪♪ But you're stuck with it ♪♪
1932
01:24:57,046 --> 01:25:01,655
♪♪ So rather than counting my
curses, I try to stay positive ♪♪
1933
01:25:01,722 --> 01:25:03,626
♪♪ I don't think I'm perfect ♪♪
1934
01:25:03,693 --> 01:25:06,431
♪♪ But I've got some things
together ♪♪
1935
01:25:06,498 --> 01:25:07,868
♪♪ I see photos of proposals ♪♪
1936
01:25:07,934 --> 01:25:10,506
♪♪ That I know
are empty gestures ♪♪
1937
01:25:10,573 --> 01:25:13,078
♪♪ Get a grip ♪♪
1938
01:25:13,144 --> 01:25:15,315
♪♪ You only got one shot,
let her rip ♪♪
1939
01:25:15,382 --> 01:25:18,154
♪♪ Take a dip, have a smoke ♪♪
1940
01:25:18,221 --> 01:25:20,960
♪♪ Try to laugh at the jokes,
ha! ♪♪
1941
01:25:21,027 --> 01:25:24,100
♪♪ I like myself
most of the time ♪♪
1942
01:25:24,166 --> 01:25:27,239
♪♪ Is that a crime? ♪♪
1943
01:25:27,306 --> 01:25:30,980
♪♪ Is that a crime? ♪♪
1944
01:25:31,047 --> 01:25:34,453
♪♪ I like myself
most of the time ♪♪
1945
01:25:34,521 --> 01:25:36,825
♪♪ Is that a crime? ♪♪
1946
01:25:36,892 --> 01:25:39,196
♪♪ Is that a crime? ♪♪
1947
01:25:39,263 --> 01:25:43,038
♪♪ Is that a crime? ♪♪
1948
01:25:43,104 --> 01:25:44,340
♪♪ Ha! ♪♪
1949
01:25:44,407 --> 01:25:48,683
♪♪ Is that a crime? ♪♪
1950
01:25:48,749 --> 01:25:52,356
♪♪ Is that a crime? ♪♪
1951
01:25:52,423 --> 01:25:54,093
♪♪ Ha! ♪♪
1952
01:25:54,160 --> 01:25:55,897
♪♪ Is that a crime? ♪♪
1953
01:25:55,964 --> 01:25:59,671
♪♪♪♪♪♪
1954
01:25:59,738 --> 01:26:01,474
Some guys do this thing
in cars,
1955
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which is so disgusting.
1956
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They actually think
they'll get a woman to pull over
1957
01:26:05,349 --> 01:26:07,286
and go on a date with them.
Ready?
1958
01:26:07,353 --> 01:26:09,558
[ imitates horn honking ]
Aah!
1959
01:26:09,625 --> 01:26:12,731
‐ What the fuck is that?
‐ [ laughter ]
1960
01:26:12,797 --> 01:26:14,701
Can you imagine if a woman
was like...
1961
01:26:14,768 --> 01:26:18,308
[ imitates horn honking ]
Hi.
1962
01:26:18,375 --> 01:26:22,216
[ laughter ]
1963
01:26:22,283 --> 01:26:23,819
[ mouthing words ]
1964
01:26:23,886 --> 01:26:26,124
[ laughter ]
1965
01:26:26,190 --> 01:26:28,562
[ continues mouthing words ]
1966
01:26:28,629 --> 01:26:29,898
In Victoria's Secret
'cause they have
1967
01:26:29,965 --> 01:26:31,467
all the little silky stuff,
little silky things,
1968
01:26:31,535 --> 01:26:33,038
and they got the things
written on the back.
1969
01:26:33,104 --> 01:26:34,775
They got "PINK" written
on the back,
1970
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and I bought a pair
of "PINK" underwear,
1971
01:26:36,745 --> 01:26:38,081
so when you get a certain age,
1972
01:26:38,148 --> 01:26:40,820
your ass likes to eat up
all the letters on the...
1973
01:26:40,887 --> 01:26:44,393
So literally the panties just
said... [ crunching sound ]
1974
01:26:44,460 --> 01:26:46,999
[ laughter ]
1975
01:26:47,066 --> 01:26:48,234
It's a funny time period
after sex.
1976
01:26:48,301 --> 01:26:49,470
You just did this series
1977
01:26:49,538 --> 01:26:51,875
of preposterous things together,
really,
1978
01:26:51,942 --> 01:26:54,648
and then, men‐‐their bodies
were, like, important.
1979
01:26:54,715 --> 01:26:55,516
Like, 20 minutes ago,
you had this, like,
1980
01:26:55,583 --> 01:26:58,321
powerful, sexual man body
1981
01:26:58,388 --> 01:27:00,760
that was commanding things,
and now you're just
1982
01:27:00,827 --> 01:27:03,431
running those pointless,
like, post‐sex errands
1983
01:27:03,499 --> 01:27:06,137
around the room, just these...
1984
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flaccid errands
and just grabbing washcloths.
1985
01:27:10,713 --> 01:27:14,020
There's no dumber time
in all of life.
1986
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[ laughter ]
1987
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♪♪♪♪♪♪